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Hey Oloni, congratulations on your award… Okay so I have a part time job and I met this guy at work, we go to the same school but his department is far from mine. Anyway, we got along at work and I’m starting to have feelings for him, do you think I should tell him ? What if he has a girlfriend? What should I do ?
28. November 2015
First find out if he’s single, if he is ask him out for drinks on you.
I’m seeing this guy and have been for almost 2 months. In the beginning I noticed messages on his phone from another girl to which he said she liked him but she was just a friend, now two months down the line I’ve noticed she’s been ringing his phone and he refuses to pick up when I’m around because ‘it’s rude’. The other day I found out that this girl is his ex who he says he broke up with her 2 months before we met but now I don’t really know whether to trust what he says, we did have sex very early on so now j suspect I’m being for sex while he try’s to get back with his ex. He’s told me he loves me and wants to be with me but I think he’s just saying this because he thinks it’s what i want to hear. Do I just leave him to deal with his ex or am I overreacting
28. November 2015
Throughout the dating period with him, she’s been in the picture and that’s because there’s still a lot more going on between him and his ex. I don’t think you’re overreacting, you’re just paying attention to something that has happened quite often I’d advise you to bounce.
So there’s this guy I’m kinda talking to at the moment he’s really cool and nice and everything but his grammar is rather terrible ? like basic grammar such as past tense and basic English. It’s putting me off. He’s a lot older than me so I feel like I can’t correct him as it might be too late for him to start getting his grammar right. Am I being extra?
28. November 2015
It’s a turn off and if you can’t move past that turn off .. keep it moving.
Hi Oloni, I’ve had this sexual relationship with this guy for the past two years. Purely sex nothing else. I met this wonderful guy now and we’ve been dating for a while, he’s great and we both see a future together. Only problem is that his sex is really not what i am used to(size wise). I’ve been keeping my distance with the other guy but the temptation is getting harder. What should I do?
28. November 2015
You have to try and figure out what is more important to you. The sexual chemistry you have with other fella or the guy you gel well with outside of the sheets. Remember it’s not always the size of a guys penis which determines whether or not he’s great in bed. So maybe you can try doing other things to make the experience better with the guy you’re dating.
Hi Oloni. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. Recently he told me he doesn’t want to be committed to me anymore, however he still wants us to be intimate and to be together, just without the title. I’ve told him how I feel but it’s like I’m not getting through. I don’t wanna be someone he just comes to for sexual pleasure but doesn’t want to be committed to. What do I do now?
28. November 2015
If you don’t want the same things you move on and don’t look back. He’s trying to have his cake and eat it, don’t allow him to.
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