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My boyfriend and I have a great sex life and I am very much satisfied, but I’ve log had secret BDSM fantasies that I’ve never expressed. He knows I enjoy being spanked and strangled, but one time I joked about ties and cuffs and he made it very clear he was NOT into it. How can I suggest it in a way that may cause him to consider it in a different way?
28. November 2015
Bring it up in a conversation and let him know these are one of your fantasies. You just need to have a chat about it the next time sex is the topic.
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27. November 2015
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My boyfriend is very conscious of his penis size, there was a time when he flat out told me he has a small penis. To me it is under average but it does satisfy me and tbh I’m not even bothered but when he’s around me he hides it for example when he comes out the shower he’s always covering up changing like he’s changing in p.e lol but I want him too be comfortable around me and doesn’t have too be shy anymore. What can I do so he is, or do I leave it so it’s doesn’t get even more uncomfortable I just want him too be secure and know he doesn’t have too be so self conscious.
27. November 2015
I don’t know how long you’ve been dating for, but I do know that it’s no secret that a lot of men take pride in the size of their penis. Have a talk with him and let him know that he doesn’t need to be insecure about his penis. I do also feel that the longer you’re with each other the more comfortable he’ll be around you.
Hi oloni i know it is abit late but i wanted to ask about domestic violence, my 2 past relationship my partners were violent to me (i’ve never hit them) the relationship is nice at first but becomes abusive i’m worried about getting in any relationship because i feel i don’t really know who people are anymore if they’re good or just pretending oks help
27. November 2015
I’m so sorry to hear this as no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. Sadly this isn’t something I can personally give you advice on, but I do think you should speak to a therapist. Here’s a link that might be able to help.
Hi, I’m basically in the friend zone I’ve known this girl for over 5years and recently (this year) I’ve really been looking at her in a different way, the last few months we been going out a lot more and getting to know each other better. So recently picked up the courage to tell her I basically love her, didn’t go as smooth as I would like but I did it. She said she has feelings for me but is in a complicated stage with a guy she’s been seeing on and off. I told her I will still chase her, she didn’t make it clear if that was ok. I will fight for her but I don’t want to end up being annoying should I take a step back to give her time to think or continue to be me and hope for the best and should I ask again in a couple months?
27. November 2015
Heya, great on you for letting her know how you feel… but now the ball is in her court. So step back, if she’s still going through things with her ex, you don’t want to be the rebound so give her a bit so she can make up her own mind as to what she wants to do about the situation.
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