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Hi I often find that I can’t go for a round 2 of sex because i’m so swollen after round 1. I’ve tried everything from more foreplay, regular sex and lube but I aways find it too painful.I’ve spoken to a few of my friends and they have experienced the same thing. What do you recommend?
17. December 2015
It seems as though you’ve tried all the normal things possible. I have a feeling it could be vaginismus but I’d suggest you speak to your gp.
I went through my boyfriends phone (not my proudest moment) long story short I saw a text exchanged with his so called female friend asking her to “Netflix and chill” even his female friend said in the text “would your gf be ok with that” how do I approach my boyfriend about this situation? I think it’s completely unacceptable to say that to another female.
16. December 2015
Going through his phone wasn’t the greatest move, but it seems like you already knew deep down that he couldn’t be trusted. What you saw was very inappropriate and a good enough reason to leave the relationship. Speak to him and let him know what you’ve seen.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 18 months. Although the sex between me and my man is great, I have never had an orgasm, and he refuses to go down on me. I get so jealous when some of my girls are telling me about their climax stories and I can’t relate. Me and my boyfriend split up for a while and I got together with another guy (to be honest I think he was just a rebound as my heart was broken). When I did get together with the guy I experienced an orgasm with the guy for the very first time and it was so great. Ive got back with my boyfriend but I can’t help but still think about that experience. What do i do??
16. December 2015
There might be a chance that you’re not sexually compatible. First off, you need to tell him that you’re not achieving an oragsm each time you have sex. You can’t force him to give you oral pleasure but he may look for new ways to sexually satisfy you. I understand that it’s annoying, because you’re clearly reminiscing about the last time you had great sex with someone else … so try the things I mentioned and see how it goes. You could even introduce toys into the room if you wanted.
Hi Oloni, my friend is currently dating a guy who believes i’m a bad influence and always has something to say about me. Like i used to be able to go to her and talk to her about a guy and yet he somehow finds out. It’s annoying now, whys he so opinionated on what i’m doing. And always up to date on whats going on in my life.
16. December 2015
Your issue isn’t with him, it’s with your friend, when these situations occur it’s best to have a conversation, but also wise if you start keeping things to yourself, since she has demonstrated that she can’t be trusted.
Hi Oloni. I’m 21 and I’ve never had a boyfriend or been in a serious committed relationship. I know this may sound weird but I’m quite shy around guys or people in general that I don’t know so I come off rude or stuck up to others but I’m just not comfortable around strangers. However, I have a friend that I went to 6th form with and we hang out in the same group and I think he likes me. He’s always saying I’m his wife and we’re gonna have kids and stuff like that but I don’t know if he’s joking or he’s trying to hint to me he likes me but this only happens when I see him. He’s never tried to message me or get my number so I added him on snapchat and I’m too scared to say something first. Do you think he’s hinting to me or am I reading to deep into it. I don’t know if I should just take the chance and message him first or not? Thanks
16. December 2015
It’s perfectly normal to be shy so don’t worry too much about that. Perhaps when you’re able to get to know someone more you’ll come out of your shell. As for the guy you added on snapchat, I would suggest you message him and start off a simple conversation. If you’d like to talk further see here: http://simplyoloni.com/relationship-coaching-packages/
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