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Hi Oloni, recently a sex tape of me was released and my friends know, everyone at my college and My older brother who hasn’t spoken to me in like 3 weeks. I don’t know if I should tell my family myself or risk them finding out. In the video you can clearly see that it is me and I’m going through a really hard patch now. I’m even scared to go church because most of the boys there know. What should I do?
25. December 2015
Sex tapes leaking can be a difficult thing to deal with depending on how you handle it.. however if you’re worried about your family finding out tell them first. It’s better it comes from you than others. Do not feel embarrassed about what you did either, those watcching are the same people who are intruiged by your sexuality and are in no place to give you funny looks, if that’s what you’re worried about. Do email me if you’d like to talk more.
Hi Oloni, I split with my boyfriend a while ago which resulted in him assaulting me – not for the first time. I finally kicked him to then later discover he was cheating on me whilst our child was in hospital. After this I saw him in public, we argued & he attacked me again. Despite this there’s a part of me that still loves & wants him. We have a child together & I want a happy family. What should I do?
22. December 2015
Hello dear, anyone who is assaulting you is not a person who loves you back. Returning to this relationship is unhealthy, think about your child and think of YOURSELF. Nothing positive can come from this situation after what you have just described…. I’d suggest you seek help from family & friends… But please do not go back to that relationship you’re going through domestic abuse, something that harms in a LOT of relationships even kills.
Hi Oloni, I recently met a guy at the gym and I decided to give him a chance . We began getting to know each other and after a few days, I found out that he did not have a job and was completely broke. I did not want to be shallow so I decided to give things a try, after a few weeks he started to ask me to buy him a few things I did this has I felt bad about his situation. I found myself getting him shopping and buying stuff to eat regularly. On several occasions he asked to borrow money, and told me he would pay me back when he got the money. When I asked him for my money he told me, he was broke again and could not pay me back. This is not about the money, it’s the principle he did not even go out of his way to give my money back, but when he was in need I provided. I’ve ended things with him but I’m really upset and feel like a complete idiot. He wants more time to pay me back and wants me to give him another chance should I?
22. December 2015
This guy is clearly a bum & I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you that. A guy you just met should not be asking you for money, it shows lack of shame and is quite frankly disgusting. I’d advise you stop seeing him and give him more time to pay in installments… Depending on how much it is. You did something out of kindness and have become a victim to your own generosity. If he makes zero attempt in payment.. Girl the courts exist for a reason.
How can I MAKE my boyfriend go down on me, should I just sit on his face? When we both started this relationship neither of us was performing oral sex. Now I feel like I’ve advanced sexually whilst he’s stayed boring. It’s not everyday wham bam, thank you mam.
22. December 2015
You can’t force him to do anything, instead let him know how you feel about your sex lives. You can even suggest ideas that might make oral sex pleasurable to him also, such as flavoured oral lube. Please do not sit on his face without permission.
Hi Oloni, i’m 20 and i was recently dating a guy who is 26, we were dating for 6 months, during the 4 months i ended up getting pregnant. Long story short we both decided we weren’t ready. So i went ahead with the abortion & after doing it i became emotionally broken, guilty about it & he wasn’t helping & just kept on asking for sex so i realised all he wanted was sex from me so i broke it off with him. Then last night he posted a picture on insta captioned “the Mrs said yes” i felt like killing someone he literally played me & clearly i was just a sidechick what should i do ? Tell the girl ? or keep it moving ?
21. December 2015
I can completely understand why you must be livid right now. The guy you were messing with is pathetic and was clearly in it for the physical. The fact that he had a girlfriend all along is obviously going to be a hard pill to swallow. Should you tell her? No. It won’t do anything, as far as she’s concerned you’ll just be the ‘crazy’ girl who never got the ring, especially after that announcement. You mentioned that you were emotionally broken and felt guilty, so I’d suggest you speak to a therapist as seek professional help as it’s very common for some women to feel this way after a termination. As for him.. just be glad you weren’t the ‘Mrs’.
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