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Hey, I’m 16 years old, and I have been talking to this boy for a long time now (about a year) and we both know where it’s at. We agreed to be close friends, with the added sexual benefits. I really like where it is at the moment, but I’m scared I’m getting feelings for him, but in a weird way. I don’t want to further out relationship, as in becoming exclusive, but I get jealous when he talks to other girls, but I know that’s what we arranged. I don’t know what to do? Please help
3. January 2016
You’ve got a friend with benefits, but you clearly can’t handle it, so perhaps you need to rethink this agreement.
Hi Oloni, I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months. I’ve been travelling to meet him at uni every month and things have been going great. But every time I ask him what we are, he basically just says “we’re an item” or “we’re obviously seeing each other”. One time, I was drunk and he rang me to check up on me and I basically called him my boyfriend during the entire call repeatedly but he ignored it every time and when I went to see him the next day after the incident, he didn’t bring it up or anything. I don’t know whether I should end things with him as he appears as if he doesn’t want things to get serious or escalate but on the other hand, I don’t want to pressure him into anything as he got out of a 2 year relationship about 6 months ago. I’m completely stuck on what to do and I don’t want to be wasting my time as I also have uni and can’t be travelling/putting so much effort into something with someone who isn’t looking for something serious.
3. January 2016
He knows what he’s doing when he answers your questions and isn’t ready to actually have a conversation about where the relationship is going. After explaining when his last relationship was it doesn’t surprise me that he’s behaving this way. At this point I think you’re wasting your time and if you’re sleeping with him and giving him the perks a man gets from being in an actual relationship he will carry on taking advantage. He never corrected you or brought up the conversation when you called him your boyfriend, because the relationship you’ve created in your head has nothing to do with him.
My 6month relationship went downhill recently…strangely he wasn’t so close to me…yesterday night I went through his phone and he’s snapchatting girls saying he can’t wait to have sex with them, suck their breast ect. There was like 12 different girls he was talking to. He was out there looking single so none of them know he even had a girl. We broke up now, what do I do? Forget him and never talk to him or what? I’m really heart broken, we had all these “plans” but he was there talking to other girls. He even told me he’s ready to have a child….lol can you imagine?!
3. January 2016
Ew what a slime. Be glad you found out what you did. Deep down perhaps you didn’t trust him all along. You’ve got a new year now, so start off fresh and be done with your ex. It will be hard, but I’m sure I don’t need to tell you how you deserve better.
Hi Oloni. Just a quick question to clear up some confusion I have. What would you say is normal progression in the lead up to a stable relationship? With all these situationships etc. i never know what I should be or shouldn’t be expecting? Happy New Year babes!!
3. January 2016
Hi Oloni, Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He treats me well, he basically treats me like a princess. The only issue I have is that he hasnt said he loves me yet. Im more than ready to say it to him, but Im not sure if I should say it first, plus I dont want to make things awkward between us especially if he doesnt feel the same way. What should I do? Thanks in advance x
2. January 2016
If you believe it then say it, if things are great between the two of you, you have nothing to fear I’m sue he feels the same. He’s probably just as nervous as you.
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