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Hi oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years , I love him so much but we are very much one of those on and off couples when we get back together we are Stronger than ever. But two years ago I found an arcrylic nail in his car, I swear it is not mine because I only wear plain colour arcrylics…. At the time I didn’t think much of it…. A couple of days later I saw another arcrylic in his car so I did some research and I couldn’t find anything except a FaceTime call named ‘lee’ and I knew he had no friends called lee so I face timed ‘lee’ and I found out it was a woman. So clearly this had been going on for quite a while. I’m so upset but I don’t know how to approach the situation… Oloni please help!
28. December 2015
Who ever Lee is needs to find a new nail technician, unless they were press ons. Moving on, you need to confront this issue with your boyfriend. If you’ve been together for 7 years and you don’t know who this person is, it’s obvious he’s doing something he isn’t supposed to be. Talk to your man and figure out what you want to do. You’ve been on an off for years, so will this make you leave?
Hi I’m a guy and I seem to have developed a sex problem where I can’t stay committed and when I have sex with a girl I lose most of my interest and I only want to be around them when sex is in the picture if a girl is in my room and not willing to have sex I don’t want her there it’s becoming a problem cause I feel bad for girls who grow feeling for me cause I’m really charming and it’s getting out of hand I can’t control myself and I’ve been seeing this girl who is perfect but I can’t help but just want sex from out people and the funny thing is when I get sex I get angry cause I don’t know why my body just craves it like a drug now and it’s sex with different women that’s the mad thing
28. December 2015
The solution to this might be a lot deeper than any answer I can give. I would suggest seeing a therapist as it seems like you could possibly be addicted to sex. From the research I’ve done in the past everything you’ve written to me seem like symptoms. Here’s a number you can call to give you more help. 0300 100 1234 – I would also advise you spend some time apart from the woman you’re currently seeing so your mood doesn’t affect her or the dynamics of the relationship.
Question for you Oloni, does being so experienced with sex and relationship advice help you in your relationship?
28. December 2015
You could say so.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and he recently told me he doesn’t normally sex without a condom, which I have never done. I am open to this, but that comment made me wonder, I’ve never asked about his sexual past, (how many he’s slept with? Has he had sti’s etc. How do I ask?
28. December 2015
I think the best thing to do here is to ask that he gets a check up, (ask when his last check up was) especially after making that comment. I’d suggest you also do the same. Asking about the number of people he has been sexually active is not important if he’s clean. I’d also suggest you visit the clinic and stick to using condoms. Practising safe sex is always best!
Hi oloni, my old high school bae and I ended up going to the same uni after years of not speaking. We recently rekindled things and had sex. After investigation, I found out that he has a long term girlfriend which he did not tell me about. We have had sex a few times and we talk about the future, he treats me like a Queen and I have developed deep feelings for him. He says he has feelings for me also… The girlfriend found out that he cheated with me and ended things with him. Is it acceptable to go ahead with dating him despite the lies he told because I feel like I can get past it as I have strong feelings for him which don’t seem to be going away…
25. December 2015
See it this way.. He cheated on her and chances are whatever he can do to the ex in a commitment is what he will do to you. She did the right thing by leaving…you going after a disloyal person should not be what you wish for yourself. He didn’t treat you like a queen, he treated you as a joker and LITERALLY played you baby girl. I understand your feelings are strong, but let’s pretend you start dating… After a few more months will you not question if he’s messing around with other women? Would you really be able to TRUST him? I always find it scary when women or men get into a relationship out of infidelity, that’s not smart, wise or healthy.
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