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Hi Oloni, my friend is currently dating a guy who believes i’m a bad influence and always has something to say about me. Like i used to be able to go to her and talk to her about a guy and yet he somehow finds out. It’s annoying now, whys he so opinionated on what i’m doing. And always up to date on whats going on in my life.
16. December 2015
Your issue isn’t with him, it’s with your friend, when these situations occur it’s best to have a conversation, but also wise if you start keeping things to yourself, since she has demonstrated that she can’t be trusted.
Hi Oloni. I’m 21 and I’ve never had a boyfriend or been in a serious committed relationship. I know this may sound weird but I’m quite shy around guys or people in general that I don’t know so I come off rude or stuck up to others but I’m just not comfortable around strangers. However, I have a friend that I went to 6th form with and we hang out in the same group and I think he likes me. He’s always saying I’m his wife and we’re gonna have kids and stuff like that but I don’t know if he’s joking or he’s trying to hint to me he likes me but this only happens when I see him. He’s never tried to message me or get my number so I added him on snapchat and I’m too scared to say something first. Do you think he’s hinting to me or am I reading to deep into it. I don’t know if I should just take the chance and message him first or not? Thanks
16. December 2015
It’s perfectly normal to be shy so don’t worry too much about that. Perhaps when you’re able to get to know someone more you’ll come out of your shell. As for the guy you added on snapchat, I would suggest you message him and start off a simple conversation. If you’d like to talk further see here: https://simplyoloni.com/relationship-coaching-packages/
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15. December 2015
Hi Oloni. Feeling really down this morning….I was in a relationship (on/off) for almost three years. The relationship started with a few lies. He hid away from me the fact he was an illegal immigrant, trying to get stay in the UK. It all made sense to me because I would always ask him about us going on holidays and he would tell me he doesn’t want to go. ALL THE TIME. Anyways, I let that slide anyway because I was with him because I loved him. Then he would demand us to get married so that he can remain in the UK and it started to put a lot of pressure on me. I lost my virginity to him, I’ve supported him, and tried to be a good girlfriend but because I wasn’t willing to marry him in order for him to have a stay, he has turned against me. He has been emotionally abusive, calling me all manners of names, he would hit me when we have arguements. He will make comments like he wish he went out with my sister instead of me. He even admitted that he was sleeping behind my back and that there is another girl he is seeing. I am really hurt, I cannot function. I need some advice please. Thank you
12. December 2015
This guy has been mentally and physically abusive towards you. You need to speak to a close friend or a family member you trust…because this relationship sounds like it was a huge torture. I’m sorry you had to go through this and I really hope you understand that this guy doesn’t deserve another chance or even space in your life. Please block his number and if you have him on social media, there too. You need to focus on how you can repair the damage that has been done, by moving on from him. It won’t be easy,HOWEVER it is POSSIBLE.. but as well as speaking to someone close I would advise you seek some therapy as I do believe professional help is also needed with this situation.
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