Hey Oloni, Firstly congrats on all your success! My situation is that I was in a situationship (finally come to grips with the label). I’m genuinely upset I found myself in one and to make matters worse I lost my v to the person. My main question is that I know when dealing with heart break (which is what it feels like) you state you should keep busy. I’ve seen/talked to other people, I’ve tried but I I still find myself going back or getting more upset when I’m not around him. What should I do?
3. January 2016
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3. January 2016
Hey Oloni! I’m in my early twenties and married, though my husband and I have been seperated for over a year. Mostly due to the fact that I only married out of pressure. I realised I unhappy way before I left him and it showed in little things like the fact that I’ve always wanted to be a mum but was so adamant about using birth control “because I wasn’t ready” and “because I want to fall in love first”. So anyway during this seperation where I’ve patiently been waiting for a divorce, I fell in love with a friend. Had a sexual relationship with him – lost my v to my husband so it’s a big thing to me and had two abortions this year 😐 crazy I know. We’re madly in love and I’m ready to get hitched to him and get these papers asap but…….. my mom. He’s not from my country. My mom would never allow it. Idk what to do. I don’t want to be suspended in this “seperation” status forever. Btw my bf thinks I’m completely divorced.
3. January 2016
You need to tell your boyfriend the real deal, be completely honest if you want what you have with him to seriously go somewhere. As for the approval of your mother, you’re just going to have to decide what’s more important to you. You’ve clearly been unhappy in the past especially in this marriage. I think it’s time you live for yourself now and do what brings your sheer happiness.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been seeing this guy and we’ve been physically intimate a few times. Over the course of it, he began talking about love and the need for a serious relationship with proper titles and so on. However, when I posed to him that I would like to try to be celibate, he quickly wanted to end everything because he’s not ready to try that. While I understand that I can’t force him to share the same viewpoints as I, I am hurt at how quickly (and rudely) he could walk away as soon as sex was off the table.
3. January 2016
Sex can be a big deal for a lot of people in relationships, however sometimes when you like a person you adjust to their needs. It’s hurtful, but perhaps that’s just where his mind was at all along.
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