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Oloni my husband has joined a run club recently. I don’t mind, I think it’s great he’s trying to get fit. However, now he’s been texting a girl from his little sporting activity. I don’t mind him making friends, but she even calls after 11pm. I’ve told him to lock it off and he told me I was overreacting. Am I?
2. October 2026
Don’t they be fucking at these things? No, she has to go. Tell him to implement respectable boundaries or she has to go!
Oloni
My bfs mum was meant to stay for a few days, it’s now turned into a few weeks. I’ve asked my bf when she’s leaving but he told me I was rude for asking such a “crazy” question. How do I get her out, she makes me uncomfortable
2. October 2026
If she was only meant to stay for a couple of days and it’s turned into weeks.. you’re within your right to ask, what the hell is going on? In a polite and civilised manner, of course. Try again and explain where you’re coming from, express how it’s made you feel. It’s unfair for you to accommodate his mother outside of the agreed time especially if they’re making you uncomfortable. Obviously context matters, so if she’s ill, grieving or something sensitive has taken place please do try to be patient. But ultimately communicate.
Oloni
Hi Oloni!!! I am newly married, and im religious so ofc i waited until marriage to have fun. I like that act of it but i can’t have orgasm from only sex i need to touch myself, and i am wondering if that’s normal???
2. October 2026
Extremely normal. Sometimes the best pleasure can come from self pleasure. It’s also important to understand your body and what you desire to help make Intimacy with your partner feel better. Congratulations on getting married. Give it time, it can definitely get better.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, you’re not even going to be believe this but… Here I am 2 years later. Remember my dankie sounds dilemma that unexpectedly went crazy viral in 2023? Well… I’m no longer engaged to my ex and I’m actually in a relationship with the guy I cheated on him in Dankie Sounds with! I lost a lot of friends/ family friends over this and I won’t bore you with too many details. But my ex did end up finding in my phone under the fake name, that I was texting Mr.Dankie Sounds (who is now my boyfriend). In an extremely heated confrontation, I ended up confessing the whole thing and my ex left me immediately. He made sure to tell everyone who would listen which for be ousted from my community of friends, church and even some family. However, I’ve been a beautiful relationship with my current boyfriend since. My dilemma is that he is overly anxious about any man I come into contact with from friends, to colleagues. He has a fear that I’d cheat on him because I’ve done it before… but it was with him and now we’re together! I find myself constantly having to reassure him but he has become slightly controlling in a way. He tries to guilt trip me into not hanging out with guy friends, even in group settings, not going to birthday parties and basically not having any interaction with men at all. In the earlier phase our relationship I thought it was cute but now it’s extremely draining and frustrating. How would you recommend I deal with this?
14. September 2026
I remember this roughly! Thanks for writing back an update though. You’re going to have to have a tough conversation with him. Like a proper conversation. His anxiety makes sense but if you can’t work past it together, what really is the point? You’ll both end up resenting each other. Good luck! x
Hey oloni, I was in a relationship for 5 years and yes I put my hands up I messed up a few times with this ONE guy but things still continued. Then the final straw was pulled (I messed up ) I cheated with the one guy my ex was in competition with for the whole 5 years (yes that one guy mentioned previously). Shortly after he got with a new girl, very similar to me, his whole family never spoke to me again AND he married her within 7 months of knowing each other 😵💫. It’s now been over a year since the break up and I’m still not over it and I’m in a dark deep pit of depression. To make it worse the other guy doesn’t even speak to me anymore. Please send some advice to move on. Please don’t shame me I’m fully aware of my mistakes tbh I don’t blame him at all
12. May 2025
I’m not going to shame you, but it sounds like you need to get some therapy girl. We all make mistakes, but it’s important to hold yourself accountable and maybe ask yourself why you did what you did. Forgive yourself and find ways to try and move on. Honestly everything happens for a reason. He couldn’t have been your person if you messed not once, but a few times. You will get through this. Book that appointment, journal, and reflect.
Oloni
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