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My bf and I have been together for 2 years and recently have had a massive hiccup in our relationship. I caught him with a screenshot from a dating app and some inappropriate pictures in his phone. He swears up and down that he never sent them and it was only ever messages. The plot twist however is that the dating profile screenshot was a man, my bf has never expressed being bisexual or any attraction to men in past. We have talked about it and he says that it will not affect our relationship because he only wants to be with me. But he is also not planning of ever ‘coming out’. I think he’s being honest when he says he loves me but I can’t get over the feeling that if he has not explored his bisexuality fully that I may catch up cheating again with a man to fulfil the sexual needs I cannot as a women. What do I do? Support him within our relationship
2. November 2024
Sexuality can be complex, and sometimes people only explore it fully later on. If he’s committed to being with you, his attraction to men doesn’t have to be an issue, as long as there’s trust and clear boundaries. Have an honest conversation so both of you feel secure and understood.
Oloni
Hi Oloni me and my bf of two years enjoy going to sex parties sometimes. Although the last one we went to I wanted to go home earlier than he did, so he stayed after I left around 2am. We weren’t in our home town but it did make me feel some type of way. My friends have all said he was wrong
2. November 2024
It makes sense that you’d feel uneasy leaving separately from a sex party… especially out of town, can feel v off. It might be worth chatting with him about setting clearer boundaries for next time so you’re both on the same page. Cus what is he staying behind to do??
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I stupidly got into a situation with a man that has a girlfriend. We were in a relationship for 6 years and I eventually had a child with him. He has kids with her also but my child has not ever met their siblings so is often excluded from family events on his side. I am no longer with him, I finally saw the light! Should I tell his gf/bm that he has another child? I genuinely don’t want him but want my child to know their siblings.
1. November 2024
Hey love, that’s a tough situation. Your priority is your child, so I’d approach it from that angle. You could reach out to her respectfully, keeping it focused on the siblings having a relationship. Just be prepared..she may react strongly, and it could get complicated. Make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons and ready for any fallout. Good luck!
oloni
Hey Oloni, I just came back from the best holiday I’ve experienced in Jamaica. I made a connection with someone out there. We really hit it off out there. He took me out on a couple of dates, got to party together. We got to spend the night together too. Felt like we were in our own world in a relationship. I’m now back in the UK and feel so low. I don’t know if I can manage with long distance. Should I move on and get over the romance or plan to see him again in Jamaica to see if what I feel is real?
30. October 2024
Hey babe! Holiday romances are so intense, I get it. If he’s serious about keeping this going and wants to see you again, plan that trip, but make sure he’s as committed as you. If it feels right, go and see if the spark is real. And if it isn’t? At least you’ll have amazing memories and the best time in Jamaica. Either way you win.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I was seeing this man for 4.5 years and recently found out that he got another girl pregnant. He invited me to the baby shower. Should i tell the BM or leave them alone?!
30. October 2024
Leave them alone please
oloni
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