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Hi oloni, im trying out being poly and im seeing a girl and a guy. The only thing is the girl stays 5 hours away from me and I’ve broken up with her twice. We seem emotionally connected but the sex is not good. Im traumatized from the first time. Im thinking if ending it because i hate long distance and i dont see the point if we aren’t sexually compatible. I still want to be her friend. How do you think i should go about it?
23. October 2023
Have a conversation and express how you feel but please do not go back!
oloni
Hi. Bit of a crazy one but I do sw and I received a customer that shocked my life forever. It was my cousins man of 3 years. Well since that day he’s been raw dogging me whenever he wants because he knows I can not let any of my family find out. Even tho he didn’t blackmail me, I knew that was the only way to keep him quiet but after every time I cry because I know I’m doing my cousin wrong. Idk what to do about it, should I tell her and let my secret out or try to tell him this isn’t right and we need to stop. The sex is good and it’s been going on for 3-4 months now btw
23. October 2023
I just.. ???
Penetration hurts everytime I try doggy style. Is this something that can be fixed
23. October 2023
Try using lots of lube but also speak to a health professional if it continues. You might have a tilted cervix
oloni
Hi Oloni, help – I’m in a rut. I’ve taken a break from serial dating & I’m having casual sex again for the first time in 6 years (I’m 29). Everything guys have said recently just makes me roll my eyes, it’s all icky, I just like them for dick. But I’m 30 next year & I feel like I’m wanting to make a fulfilling connection but how can I do that without compromising my standards. I like nice places for dates, engaging conversations & a hard working man which feels hard to come by recently. What do I do !?
23. October 2023
Girl, dont let your age be a reason you feel like you have to form a deep connection with someone. If it’s simply what you’re just ready for THEN I understand.
If you wanna date, do things that require dating. Go to new places, try new experiences, get on the dating apps and just have fun.
oloni
Hey Oloni. I have a crush on my friend and I don’t know what to do. We have both gotten out of relationships recently and don’t see ourselves getting into any anytime soon but I can’t deny that there are feelings there. Should I act on it or keep it quiet?
23. October 2023
Give it some time and revisit your feelings. You dont want him to be a rebound.
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