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Hi Oloni, I need some advice please. I’m currently pregnant the dad has now stated he wants nothing to do with it, he called me evil & told me not to contact him again. I will respect what his asking & I won’t be contacting him again. I will raise my baby to my best ability. My question is do u block him on the phone & live my life without him or do I keep his number in case one day he wants to reach out? His been so rude to me since finding out & because I won’t have an abortion. His removed me off social media, but at kept me on WhatsApp as he said that’s all the communication we need. Since then his told me not to contact him. How do I go about this?. As I don’t want to have false hope one day he will reach out. Thanks
8. September 2023
hey hun we answer this on next weeks Laid Bare podcast. But I think you need to surround yourself with family and friends who can be there for you. he’s allowed to express what he’d prefer regarding the pregnancy, but ultimately it is YOUR choice and yours alone. Fuck him. If he doesn’t want you to contact him, then don’t. I would suggest speaking to a family member of his after the birth, via phone call to let them know so maybe someone can hold him accountable (if they do) it’s such a tough one, so really think about your decision.
Oloni
Why don’t you answer dilemmas but keep asking people to pour out their business to you expecting a reply…?
7. July 2023
Because we answer them on Laid Bare Podcast.
Oloni
Good day Oloni. I’ve been w/ this man for almost 3 years now. He does everything for me, put me in one of his houses, got me a car and working on my business plus he put me into school. We do everything together including going to church, but we never had sex. He always says no, everytime I bring it up he ignores or changes the topic.
9. May 2023
Hey have a conversation with him and ask!! Say, “is there a reason why we haven’t been physical?”
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I hope all is well. Please forgive me, but this is a long one. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, and I’m cheating on him with a guy I met in Dubai. Lately, things have been very different, and we have not spent time with each other frequently. Bear in mind we live in Birmingham and are 20 mins apart, but we still live at home. I have bought this up, and he says we don’t have time as we both work full-time, which is unacceptable. So I went to Dubai for NYE with the girls, and at that time, it had been some months since I and my bf had been sexually active. We just disagreed before I flew out, so I was not happy with him and met this guy who was into me and very open with his life which has been a struggle with my bf. Returning to the UK, I see my fling more than my bf. I stay at his place in London when I need to go to the office, and it has been great! I even lied to the fling that I had dumped my bf, which is mad, and now I have turned into a liar. But I appreciate the effort and the time the fling takes to spend with me. We go on regular dates, TALK, and have sex, which I lack from my bf. I have had a discussion with my bf about how I feel, and he said he would try his best to be more proactive, but I’m yet to see any changes, and I’m bored with him. I have never met any of his family, and we are both in our mid-thirties, and I don’t understand his nonchalant behaviour as we are not getting younger, and he doesn’t align with my plans anymore. I also don’t see a future with the fling, as his ex-girlfriend & mother of his twins passed away 18 months ago. He has told me in the past he has said the girls he’s been seeing that he’s not ready for a relationship, but I should give him time to heal, please 😂 which is fair because I have recently lost a brother, and there is no amount of time to get over grieving. I have even met my flings sister, brother and cousins in a short amount of time. What do I do in this situation? I love my bf, but I’m afraid that I could be settling and that he does not want to marry me or have kids as he jokingly says we should have kids and marry in our 40s. (I tell him his mad and say, GOD FORBID)
11. April 2023
We’ll answer this on Laid Bare Podcast, look out for it.
Hello oloni, I’ve been going out with my boyfriend officially for about a year now. We’ve known each other for three. In the past he has secretly lied to me about going out with friends but he went to meet his ex. He met a girl at work and told me it was a guy and saved her name as a boy name so I wouldn’t find out. I genuinely don’t trust him in the slightest and he genuinely disgust me. But I feel confused because I still care to or love him but I also want to leave but I’m also scared of what he’ll do. I just don’t know
18. March 2023
You know you need to get out of this asap. You don’t trust him and it’s understandable as to why. If you have any fears speak to close friends and family, so they’re aware if the situation. Hope you leave hun
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