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I have 2 guys I’m seeing, a main one and another ive started seeing recently (they know about each other). They both dont like doing anything on V-day, but I happened to go out on a date with the new guy, and I hadnt spoken to the other all day. Normally it wouldnt matter but on the date, we were filmed for some tiktok thing and now I’m nervous. Should I tell my main guy in advance? Although he’s not on social media so I doubt he’d see it but I am a bit conflicted 😅
29. February 2024
I don’t personally think you need to say anything especially if he’s not your bf?? Is your main serious about exclusivity??
oloni
Hey Oloni..I’ve been with my boyfriend going on 2 & half years now, we met at work. We built up a really close friendship first and then feelings grew and we began dating. About 6months into the relationship he told me he was bisexual at first I was abit taken back because I didn’t expect it at all, he told me he hadn’t told all of his friends and family because of the culture & type of household he’s been raised in..he didn’t feel comfortable to tell them. After I got over the intial shock I told him that it didn’t change anything.. Everything has been fine ever since..About four months ago a new colleague joined our workplace and him and my boyfriend have developed a close friendship and work together regularly, recently they started hanging out outside of work all the time. At first I didn’t think anything of it because my bf is an introvert type of guy so I even encouraged him to step outside his comfort zone and I felt the friendship would be good for him. A friend has recently told me that our colleague is gay and that he has expressed that he has a crush on my boyfriend and feels it may be mutual. I don’t know what to do about the situation, my bf & I have not really discussed anything about his sexuality, since that initial conversation.. he doesn’t like to talk about the topic. I no longer feel comfortable with the friendship but they still have to work together side by side everyday. I don’t know how to approach the situation.. any advice please ?
23. January 2024
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Hi Oloni, I have been married for 8 years now. I love my husband to bits. I have only had 1 sexual partner other than my husband and the sex was okay. My husband in the beginning was so adventurous in the bedroom! He taught me everything I know about oral sex, giving and receiving, but now he has become so boring. Nine times out of ten, I have to please myself after sex. There’s no foreplay. It has become increasingly frustrating as the only time I get kisses or hugs is because he wants sex. Fed up tbh. Don’t know what to do. I’ve expressed to him that sex has become a chore but no change. Thoughts? Outside of the sex, he is a great man, but I have a tickle that needs itching. Yours truly <30yrs old mother of 2 and wife
23. October 2023
Hey hun! So sorry about this. I’d say you should stop sleeping with him. If the sex is bad why are you having it?
I feel like, maybe you could work on increasing your sexual currency. There’s a good chapter about this in my book, but I think it could definitely help until he is ready to make it clear he cares about your pleasure.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. So I had sex for the first time a recently. I’m a 24 year old guy. It was amazing and I got a 9/10 review for making her cum twice by giving her head, but she lives in a different city and was in London only temporarily. What advice do you have for me to find FWB. I’m at Uni studying a competitive course and don’t have time for a relationship unfortunately. Just looking for something casual. I’m a big fan of your podcasts; it’s very informative and entertaining for guys too thanks 🙂
23. October 2023
Thank you so much for loving the podcast but honestly casual sex is not hard to come by. There are so many dating apps that people use for hook ups. Explore and have fun and remember to be safe
oloni
I can only cum in my dreams and with a vibrator the sex me and my bf have is amazing but I’ve never been able to cum from penetration. Orally once. It was very unexpected, with a man I barely liked. With penetration, I often feel close but cannot seem to get over that hump. Please help.
23. October 2023
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