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Hi Oloni. Me and my man are thinking of moving together but idk if I can. He doesn’t clean like I do or cook like I do and I’m lost. Help. I wanna do this but I don’t wanna hurt his feelings by bringing it up.
28. October 2024
If you’re having doubts then you need to talk to him about it. Even if you don’t move in together today, I think it should still be a topic of conversation. Communicate!!
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I really need your advice on something that’s been weighing on me. I found out that my boyfriend of two years was cheating on me, and it all started when I decided to check the time on his phone and saw a text message from another girl. I got suspicious and checked his Instagram, and sure enough, they were following each other. When I confronted him, he refused to show me the text messages but admitted that they met at a party two weeks ago—a party he lied to me about attending in the first place. Now, he’s been begging me to take him back for almost a week, but I’m feeling so over it. The more he pushes, the more pressured and stuck I feel. I’m torn because part of me is ready to move on, but another part of me is just so confused. What do you suggest I do? I’m really stuck between a rock and a hard place.
17. October 2024
Hey Oloni, Should I tell her via Instagram? These times last year I met a guy on vacation and we hit it off like a house on fire, LITERALLY! He felt like my perfect person and he said I was his! He flew me out to see him we spoke every single day & when I broke it off he literally cried on FT & couldn’t even say bye. He used to still msgs me after this but he is blocked now and I’m kinda over it. The story is very long as it went on for over 6 months. Main issue was I found out he was engaged and as time went on I realised he didn’t know what he wanted so I broke it off completely! Before breaking it off I found his fiancé on Instagram and she seems like the sweetest person ever (he doesn’t know this)! I’ve never been in a situation like this before and I’ve been battling on if I should tell her or not. They get married next year!
17. October 2024
He’s insane. Omg. I’m actually torn because a part of me does want you to tell her. Sometimes when people tell me they want to tell the other girl if feels like it’s coming from a place of spite rather than helping her not commit to someone who is clearly very unwell. However, from what you’ve explained, it doesn’t even seem like you are doing that and even if you were to be honest, this is someone she’s about to marry. I’m literally thinking as I type, but I would say tell her and save her but don’t get too involved and just give her the necessary receipts. Explain the scenario BUT understand whatever happens after is none of your business. meaning if she decides to get married to him that’s her choice.
hi Oloni, i feel i’m no longer attracted to my bf. when he have sex i think of other people i’ve slept with. i love him so much but i feel as a couple im just not as excited anymore. we don’t really have as much fun as we used to & idk im just in an era where i wanna try new things, experience new people & connections. i’m 21 turning 22 and i just feel like this is all too soon for me to be in a serious relationship & i don’t wanna get 4 years down the line & feel like i missed out on my youth. Theirs is great joy in a relationship especially in our generation, he’s such a good egg & i cherish him. but i don’t wanna force it and force my feelings just for the sake of that. but at the same time part of me just doesn’t want to lose such a great person. i’m conflicted. i’m in uni & im going into my third yr & i honestly just want to also have some fun without any consequences of hitting someone else’s feelings. i want to get my career in check, finish all my education ( i plan on doing a masters etc) before i get serious w a man. i want to build the life i want before i let someone else join me as well as have kids etc, he’s 24 turning 25 & he’s thinking marriage/engagement in like 3 years. im not on it idk what to do
17. August 2024
Heya! Bless you. Honestly continue to stay true to yourself and do what you feel in your head. Sometimes love means loving someone from afar. Who knows where you’ll both be in the future?
Oloni
So Oloni, my bf loves to give me head but I don’t really enjoy head, I preferred to be fingered. But it turns him on so I oblige, but recently I’ve noticed when he gives me head I get a yeast infection, it’s the reason I don’t like head, happens to me w everyone I’ve ever gotten head from, their oral yeast I guess upsets the balance of my vaginal micro flora, every time he gives me head I get a mild yeast infection, it goes away on its own and I try to put gaps between when I receive, sometimes we go back to back if of the duration is long, I get a yeast infection in like two days. Idk if I’m doing something wrong, it feels like a me issue because we’re exclusive and it’s not just w him it has happened in the past in other relationships. The issue now is idk how to tell him that he has to stop cause it’s the one thing he loves the most but I can’t enjoy it cause I keep thinking about how in two days the itching gonna start. I recently treated one infection and I know he’s gonna ask soon again. What do I do? I love this man and I know he loves me so much but it makes me feel slightly inadequate to not be able to give him something he obviously loves so much. Idk if it’s technique or something else but I’ve done and checked everything but it only happens after head and I’ve never met anyone w similar experiences, please help.
17. August 2024
Hey aww bless you. Listen, if it’s causing your body to react, then you listen to your body and you let him know. I will say though, try seeing a sexual health nurse/professional who could probably help figure out why you keep getting yeast infections and if there’s a way this can be helped/stopped.
Good luck and thanks for sharing your dilemma. I think this might actually help a lot of people.
Oloni
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