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Hi Oloni. My boyfriend really likes to eat my ass and other things but I draw the line at anal sex. Tbh I don’t even like doing anything related to that area. It doesn’t turn me on at all, I just pretend because he seems to love it a lot. Should I tell him I don’t like it at all or let him have his fun?
28. December 2015
You need to speak up about this before you have sex again. If you’re not comfortable doing something sexually then it needs to become the topic of conversation asap.
Hi oloni, i broke up with my ex of 5 years a few months ago and i met someone new a few weeks later. This person had approached me, i was hesitant to give him a chance but I thought it would help me move on from my ex. As time has gone by i still haven’t gotten over my ex, im still very much in love with him but at the same time i have grown feelings for this other guy. Ive recently told the new guy the truth about my feelings and he didnt take it so well. He got angry and has stopped talking to me but now i feel really sad and i dont know if ive made the right decision. What shall I do?
28. December 2015
You’re not supposed to date a guy with the intentions that’ll hep you move on from a breakup unless were looking for a rebound. I wouldn’t say you were wrong, you were honest. Sometimes honesty doesn’t always receive the best reactions. Perhaps you still might need some more time to enjoy being single, you were in a relationship for 5 years, cool off a bit more till you know you’re definitely ready to jump back into the dating game.
Hi oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years , I love him so much but we are very much one of those on and off couples when we get back together we are Stronger than ever. But two years ago I found an arcrylic nail in his car, I swear it is not mine because I only wear plain colour arcrylics…. At the time I didn’t think much of it…. A couple of days later I saw another arcrylic in his car so I did some research and I couldn’t find anything except a FaceTime call named ‘lee’ and I knew he had no friends called lee so I face timed ‘lee’ and I found out it was a woman. So clearly this had been going on for quite a while. I’m so upset but I don’t know how to approach the situation… Oloni please help!
28. December 2015
Who ever Lee is needs to find a new nail technician, unless they were press ons. Moving on, you need to confront this issue with your boyfriend. If you’ve been together for 7 years and you don’t know who this person is, it’s obvious he’s doing something he isn’t supposed to be. Talk to your man and figure out what you want to do. You’ve been on an off for years, so will this make you leave?
Hi I’m a guy and I seem to have developed a sex problem where I can’t stay committed and when I have sex with a girl I lose most of my interest and I only want to be around them when sex is in the picture if a girl is in my room and not willing to have sex I don’t want her there it’s becoming a problem cause I feel bad for girls who grow feeling for me cause I’m really charming and it’s getting out of hand I can’t control myself and I’ve been seeing this girl who is perfect but I can’t help but just want sex from out people and the funny thing is when I get sex I get angry cause I don’t know why my body just craves it like a drug now and it’s sex with different women that’s the mad thing
28. December 2015
The solution to this might be a lot deeper than any answer I can give. I would suggest seeing a therapist as it seems like you could possibly be addicted to sex. From the research I’ve done in the past everything you’ve written to me seem like symptoms. Here’s a number you can call to give you more help. 0300 100 1234 – I would also advise you spend some time apart from the woman you’re currently seeing so your mood doesn’t affect her or the dynamics of the relationship.
Question for you Oloni, does being so experienced with sex and relationship advice help you in your relationship?
28. December 2015
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