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Question for you Oloni, does being so experienced with sex and relationship advice help you in your relationship?
28. December 2015
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and he recently told me he doesn’t normally sex without a condom, which I have never done. I am open to this, but that comment made me wonder, I’ve never asked about his sexual past, (how many he’s slept with? Has he had sti’s etc. How do I ask?
28. December 2015
I think the best thing to do here is to ask that he gets a check up, (ask when his last check up was) especially after making that comment. I’d suggest you also do the same. Asking about the number of people he has been sexually active is not important if he’s clean. I’d also suggest you visit the clinic and stick to using condoms. Practising safe sex is always best!
Hi oloni, my old high school bae and I ended up going to the same uni after years of not speaking. We recently rekindled things and had sex. After investigation, I found out that he has a long term girlfriend which he did not tell me about. We have had sex a few times and we talk about the future, he treats me like a Queen and I have developed deep feelings for him. He says he has feelings for me also… The girlfriend found out that he cheated with me and ended things with him. Is it acceptable to go ahead with dating him despite the lies he told because I feel like I can get past it as I have strong feelings for him which don’t seem to be going away…
25. December 2015
See it this way.. He cheated on her and chances are whatever he can do to the ex in a commitment is what he will do to you. She did the right thing by leaving…you going after a disloyal person should not be what you wish for yourself. He didn’t treat you like a queen, he treated you as a joker and LITERALLY played you baby girl. I understand your feelings are strong, but let’s pretend you start dating… After a few more months will you not question if he’s messing around with other women? Would you really be able to TRUST him? I always find it scary when women or men get into a relationship out of infidelity, that’s not smart, wise or healthy.
The guy I have been sleeping with has a child with another woman. Plot twist, he doesn’t claim his child but he is aware that it is his, however as he never wanted the child, he contributes nothing to the child’s life. I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with this, his ex girlfriend was and that’s what he seemed to love so much about her… I’m not sure whether to continue sleeping/ dating him or cut him loose and let him figure out his responsibilities
25. December 2015
Any man who doesn’t take care of their child is not someone you should take seriously.
Hi Oloni, my former boyfriend has been trying extra hard to win me back by saying he’s going to do a lot of things for me that he didn’t do in the past, he recently planned a surprise for me but didn’t come through with the plans of the surprise. I thought maybe he wasn’t into me but everyone around him and I have claimed that he was obsessed and absolutely in love with me. What should I do?
25. December 2015
If his words aren’t matching his actions the things people are saying are clearly not gospel.
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