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Hi oloni, this has been getting me down recently. I’ve been in a relationship for nearly two years with a guy who just doesn’t cut it for me in the bedroom. I have an extremely high sex drive but his bad sex has lead me to become unattractive to him sexually. I’ve tried to spice things up use toys and get really sexy for him but he doesn’t like it and he also doesn’t like to give or receive oral sex!!! I love him but have no sexually chemistry with him and don’t like having sex with him anymore because I find it boring and a chore, I love him but I’ve really reached breaking point. I’ve explained to him and he doesn’t care he still gives me the same one doggy style for 6 minutes and rolls over. Is it really time for me to leave I don’t know what else to try???
30. November 2015
If sex is a big deal for you, then you might have to leave unless you can cope with more years of the same thing.
Hi oloni, there’s a boy who I was previously seeing it was occasional dates, flirting, etc. But I could see he didn’t want anything more than sex so we had a word and cut it off. Now after about 6 months he’s back telling me he’s very serious trying to prove himself. Throughout the 6 month break we’ve occasionally spoke but not like this. My real problem is everything about him makes me weak but I don’t want to fall for something that is just temporary. What do I do?
30. November 2015
It’s up to you take a chance by dating him and seeing if his new words match his actions.
READ: #AskOloni The Long Distance Relationship
29. November 2015
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The Long Distance Relationship
Hi, I have been with my partner for 6 years. It’s a long distance relationship of sorts. I live in London and he lives in Leeds but we have always managed to make it work. Sometimes he confides in me about how lonely he can get as we only get to see each other once a month fit a couple of days. I made a comment that if he needed he could sleep with other women. I said I didn’t want to know if he did. Recently he told me that he kissed… read more here
It’s not even a question… I’ve seen a lot of women at their whits end saying that they cook and clean etc for their partners etc and they are still unfaithful. I just want to say to these women stop chasing a lifestyle and chase a genuine connection with someone. There is no shame in not having a boyfriend and sometimes it is better to be alone, then do the most for someone who doesn’t care an ounce for you. Also there is no shame in letting a relationship go if you feel that things are not how they once were and I’ll tell you, no amount of cooking and cleaning is going to stop a man from cheating on you if he does not rate you and I know that from experience. I am currently having sex with someone who I found out to be in a 5 year long relationship. He and his girlfriend live together and I’m sure she cooks and cleans and does all the things a ‘good girlfriend’ should do. But that does stop him from buying me gifts, spending nights away from home because he is with me in hotel. He disrespects his girlfriend by telling me that her sex is noting like mine and they have to arrange sex every fortnight. Now, I personally had to remove myself from that situation but my point is, of corse this guy is a horrible man but I also wonder, does she not feel the change, does she not notice that for a whole month he was gone every weekend? Does she not notice that he’s always leaving the room to talk to me, or that when texts came to the phone he would shy away? It’s like don’t try to save a 5 year relationship to the detriment of yourself. Just love yourself more than you love anyone else ladies. x
29. November 2015
Uh thank you for sharing.
My ex messaged me wanting to get back together and saying he cares but I wasn’t convinced after a pretty heated argument before hand. We just seem to go round in circles each time so this time I made it clear it can’t happen. He was so sure I still had feelings and saying that I can’t forget him- kinda true. I was trying to put him off me because I wasn’t sure, he was adamant that if we both changed it could work. I was clever and said that will you be able to manage a relationship with work without excluding the other because in the past I have been pushed out. He said he’ll think about it and that was on Tuesday and he hasn’t got back to me yet. Was this just a way of messing with my head? Because he definitely has and I can’t stop thinking about him..
29. November 2015
I think he’s playing with your head, what he’s saying and what he’s texting isn’t matching up with any of his actions. It doesn’t even seem like something that would work if you were still arguing prior. This isn’t the type of relationship you return to. It just feels like he’s trying to see if he can get you where he once had you. Keep it moving
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