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Hi Oloni, so I’ve been sexing a friend of mine. He’s the only person I’ve ever had sex with although we’re not and never have been anymore than good friends. Two things; whenever we have sex he always makes sure to wear a condom, we’ve only had sex without a condom once (when he took my virginity) how do I tell him I wanna have sex without a condom again, do I suggest that I go on the pill etc or…? & secondly, a lot of the time he treats me like his girl and I feel like I don’t like that he does bcus I’m not his girl, we just good friends – what do I do about this ?
21. December 2015
Have a conversation about contraception if you’re positive you want to start having casual sex with him. The pill is a great idea, but I would suggest you carry on using a condom. I’d also advise you both get checked up if you’ve had sex without protection before. As for being treated as if you’re his partner? You need to also discuss where things are heading romantically, to have a better understanding of the dynamics of the relationship.
Hi Oloni. Do you have any advice on what to do for a one year anniversary. Our pockets aren’t the biggest. But do you know of anything that we could do? Would London be a good idea? Thank youu
21. December 2015
Try a museum, a concert of my personal fav?.. Hip hop karaoke. It’s cheap affordable and always a great night.
My boyfriend has a lot of females associates and admits it, I’m not comfortable with it ; what do you think I should do?
21. December 2015
It’s best you speak to him about it. However, associates aren’t friends, so what’s the problem?
My boyfriend likes talking dirty in bed which I like too but one thing I’m not comfortable with is him wanting me to call him the n-word. I’m not black so I really don’t want to but he won’t drop it and insists its his fantasy. How can I make him realise he can’t convince me to say it and just leave it alone?
17. December 2015
Have conversation outside of the sheets and let him know that it makes you very uncomfortable.
Hey oloni, I need your help basically I’m 23 and I’m in love with a married man…., it’s weird because he took my number when we was talking in church about something and I said I could help him out with it, we talk everyday ( well I message him and he replies even at late hours) and he helps me with my problems. I’ve grown to love him and I don’t know what to do as he has a wife and I’m not ready to steal anyone’s husband
17. December 2015
You need to start distancing yourself from him as you’re playing with fire. The only one here who is capable of getting burnt is you, not him. It’s good that you’re honest with your emotions, however you need to realise why it’s a bad idea if you keep communicating with him. If you truly want to solve this, you’ll delete his number (block) and move on.
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