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This guy has been mentally and physically abusive towards you. You need to speak to a close friend or a family member you trust…because this relationship sounds like it was a huge torture. I’m sorry you had to go through this and I really hope you understand that this guy doesn’t deserve another chance or even space in your life. Please block his number and if you have him on social media, there too. You need to focus on how you can repair the damage that has been done, by moving on from him. It won’t be easy,HOWEVER it is POSSIBLE.. but as well as speaking to someone close I would advise you seek some therapy as I do believe professional help is also needed with this situation. I think younger women are being more vocal about their sexuality because it empowers them, it doesn’t make them a ‘hoe’. This is something I wish was more acceptable when I was younger as a lot of women were looked down on for just simply discussing things men are praised for. You may not be the same, you might be more private about your sexual experiences, women who are similar to you are still out there, just because that’s all you see, doesn’t mean that, that’s all there is. Just have a conversation with him over phone and let him know that you’d prefer if you could go back to being friends. There’s nothing major to talk about if feelings aren’t involved and you’re just having casual sex.
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