I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now and everything was going great so I thought. We have some of the same friends and I recently found out that he told one of our friends that he’s not satisfied with me in bed. What do I do?
1. January 2016
Urgh! He messed up bad. You need to speak to him asap and let him know what you were told. Your sex life shouldn’t be topic of discussion especially if you have the same friendship group. Let him know how you feel about it and carry on from there.
I spent last weekend with my bf and I really enjoyed it, it was the first time I had stayed over (parents are strict they don’t know) I made some excuse. We have been together for 3 years and I’m 20 he is 27. He treated me like such a queen. While he was taking a shower I went through his old phone he claims to not use anymore. I saw notifications from tinder saying you have a new message from about 3 different girls. I was heartbroken and I still am. I wanted to ask him face to face what was going on but I couldn’t bring myself to do it so put on a fake act and when I got home I texted him telling him I knew. He was calm and reassured me that his friend had his phone for a while and had put a passcode on it that he doesn’t know it to. His friend needs to get everything off that phone before he can wipe it completely. He assured me that if I had confronted him face to face that he would’ve rang his friend on loud speaker and proved this to me. I feel heartbroken and I don’t know what to believe. I had such a good weekend with him and miss him like crazy but this has really ruined things.
1. January 2016
This is a tough one because he could be telling the truth but he could also be lying. Go with what your gut is telling you and in the future never dispute things via text.
Hi, so I’ve been on and off with someone for 3 years. I’ve never officially made her my girlfriend but we pretty much was in a relationship. Neither of us were seeing anyone else. Till I took interest in someone else. Me and that other person started messing about and now she may be pregnant. The truth of the matter is she was just a rebound. As soon as the girl that’s been my everything for the past 3 years even found out she cut me off completely. I want her back she’s slowly started to come back around but she doesn’t know that this fling that I had got taken too far. Should I just ask her to have an abortion first or just wait? I really love this girl but I know as soon as this news comes out we are done for good.
29. December 2015
It seems like you’ve effed up and after years you’ve finally realised who you want to call your girlfriend due to the pregnancy news. You need to be honest and let this lady know what has happened when you were messing around with someone else, it will be hard for her to deal with, but it can’t/shouldn’t come from anyone else. As for asking the woman you got pregnant to terminate the pregnancy, that’s a conversation you have to have with her, but at this present moment she’s pregnant that the reality of things. If she means as much to you as you’ve explained don’t leave her in the dark.
I met this guy at uni a few months ago, we were seeing each other casually for a while but we didn’t have sex as I’m a virgin and I’m not quite ready. I started to catch feelings for him and I told him this, he told me he don’t feel the same way and that he’s not ready to be in a relationship. This was despite him previously saying stuff to me like “I’ll never hurt you” which would make no sense if you’re not trying to be anything with me. Because he’s around a lot, I had to suck it up and act cool with him, but me and others noticed he gets jealous whenever I speak to his friends, especially one particular one. One time he even took said friend out of the room when I was talking to him and when the friend came back in, he moved away from me and didn’t speak to me. One time he saw me and the friend speaking outside and completely ignored our presence and said hi just to the other person we were with. Then yesterday this boy sent me a snapchat of him and some girl, it was clear they just had sex and I was confused as to why he sent it to me. He knows how I feel about him so I would have thought he would have had enough respect for me not to show me that. I asked him why he sent it and he said it said it was an accident but gave no apology. Myself and others I’ve told about it know it wasn’t an accident but I don’t understand why he sent me that, and frankly I don’t understand him because he’s always so contradictory and confusing.
29. December 2015
This guy sounds like a major asshole and to be quite honest you will meet a few of them throughout university. He’s a walking insecure contradiction and is screwing with your head. I doubt him sending that snapchat was an accident. He clearly wanted to get back at you as mentioned. I’d suggest you stop speaking this guy asap. It’s clear he doesn’t respect you.. who uses the snapchat app after sex? Urgh! Someone with something to prove that’s who. Be done with him.
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