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Hi Oloni this is a shallow question but how many times should you forgive your partner ? I’ve just exsperienced something weird with my boyfriend I know he’s been cheating because I had a phone call from one of his female friends asking me who I am to my own boyfriend. I broke up with him but I really do miss him but I just don’t know what to do.
17. November 2015
You’re allowing him to carry on cheating because you’ve clearly forgiven him too many times. This relationship needs to die, especially with that cheeky phone call. Girl.. stop ignoring these blatant red flags.
So I touched down in Uni in October – a virgin and inexperienced with relationships. I meet this girl and we find out we have lots in common, like each other a lot stay up speaking in our rooms etc. Eventually we hook up and that same night we both have sex for the first time. We had been hooking up since, but she made it clear that she doesn’t want a relationship because of a scarred past (and a desire to meet new people; in fact I had to hassle her to be exclusive to me) and that I should tone down my feelings. I bregugingly did so and all was good. We had a pregnancy scare, but it passed. Anyway, the other day, we have sex and I am feeling moody, she leaves during the night and I show her out, feeling upset. The next morning, she says she can no longer see me as anything other than a friend, because my being upset when she leaves indicates feelings. Apparently she feels guilty that she is tagging me along in an arrangement I don’t really want, and thereby preventing me meeting another girl I could make happy. Is this a bullshit excuse? Certainly seems so to me.
17. November 2015
Regardless of what you may think it is (bullshit) what she has voiced, that she is no longer interested in what you were doing prior. So if it was just sex that you were both having, she doesnt want to carry on. As I mentioned she could be bullshitting you with her excuse, but the clear hint is she wants out, so just accept it and move on.
I was seeing this guy for a while couple months and recently found out he has a girlfriend. In this time I had developed very strong feelings for him. I found out through the friend I met him through she claims she warned me by saying she saw a girl in his shared house, but I said she was lying! Do I have a right to be angry at my friend and am I nieve for not investigating on the information she passed on the me intially
17. November 2015
Just apologise to your friend.. She told you something she didn’t have to and you never listened or even questioned it, just make sure you stop seeing this guy.
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17. November 2015
I lost my virginity to a guy 7/8 months ago and haven’t had sex since. Earlier this month I had some issues down there and went to a sexual health clinic and found I had Genital warts which has really upset/angered me, the lady told me it could pop up months after and I’m now doing the treatment (the first was painful af). It’s been so long do I tell him? (He was my first) I’m a bit embarrassed and don’t really want a awkward convo
17. November 2015
I’m really sorry to hear about this and I know you must feel really bummed out, but you’re going to have to have the conversation with him about it. If you were a virgin before you were sexual with him, then it;s clear it came from him and he needs to be seen to asap.
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