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Hey Oloni, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years. I recently found out he slept with my cousin 2 years ago. I really do not know what to do about this. I just feel betrayed and humiliated because people around me, who witnessed their affair were tried to tell me about this, and I found it hard to believe then. How I found out, is through his cousin who admires me and cared enough for my dignity (female). 2. November 2015

Hey. if you haven’t spoken about to your partner about this new information, you must do asap. There isn’t any excuse under the sun that can justify his behaviour, but it’s important, you confront what you’ve been told. I would suggest after speaking you give yourself some space from him so you can figure out what you want to do about the relationship.

Hi, in relation to your tweet about communication with your other half. Do you think there is a difference between you feeling like you’re ‘nagging’ and ‘schooling’ If you get what I am saying 29. October 2015

I don’t know what you mean by ‘schooling’ but as for nagging. Yes. There’s a way to make it clear that something is bothering you without seeming like a ‘nag’.

If youre in a situation and your other half does something you don’t like, wait for an appropriate time to let it be known. Sit down explain how it made you feel … However, if this is something you have repeatedly addressed they no longer become the problem you do.

Hi, I have been with my partner for 6 years. It’s a long distance relationship of sorts. I live in London and he lives in Leeds but we have always managed to make it work. Sometimes he confides in me about how lonely he can get as we only get to see each other once a month fit a couple of days. I made a comment that if he needed he could sleep with other women. I said I didn’t want to know if he did. Recently he told me that he kissed another woman. Do I have the right to be upset because at this present moment I feel nothing but indifference toward him. 26. October 2015

It’s great that you’re both open and honest with each other. Regardless of what you gave him permission to do, you can’t help how you feel and this is what you need to voice out to him. You have to be upfront and let him know that although you said you’d be okay with it, it still made you feel a type of way. My guess is he didn’t want to keep it from you even though you said you didn’t want to know. Once you’ve had a chat, see how you can move forward and what you both can do to make your ldr stronger.

so I really love this guy, so much it’s crazy. I’ve loved him for nearly a year now and I recently found out he has a girlfriend, he has never mentioned her and he even flirts with me. So I then went on to do something so bad…I let my feelings control me. I basically set up this fake Twitter account & catfished his girlfriend in hopes of them breaking up. She’s actually given the guy I’m pretending to bet a lot of interest. This has been going on for 6 weeks now and I feel like the girl is catching feelings. How do I expose her without it all backfiring on me? 26. October 2015

This is very unhealthy and I would also advise that you should seek some counselling. There is no guy in the world who should make you stoop to this level. If you want to get out of this simply delete your account and leave both him and his girlfriend alone, nothing positive is going to come from this if you continue.

READ: The “Hey Stranger” Season Text 26. October 2015

“Hey Stranger” season is probably the most ‘eye-rolling’ season ever. For those who have no idea what it means, it’s…

‘When you receive, or send, a message from someone you have hooked up with or had a relationship with in the past or wanted to but didn’t have the opportunity. The opening line of “hey stranger” is the socially acceptable way to say “it’s been a long time but I am still interested in hooking up if you are?”

It usually takes place a month before “cuffing season”. An old flame that you’ve sworn off reappears … Read more HERE

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