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Hi! So I’ve recently started liking a guy only to find out that he’s got back together with his ex. I don’t want to stop being friends with him but at the same time I hate know that I like someone who’s in a relationship. Do I avoid seeing him when he’s in town or continue the friendship at the risk of liking him even more?
11. November 2015
If you have feelings for someone who’s committed to someone else, do yourself a favour and keep a distance. You’re only torturing yourself by remaining in this position.
Few days ago I went to one of my male friends house I’ve known him for years and been together sexual and somewhat so went to his house now got high we were chilling and so what had sex first time it was all good my mind wasn’t really in it the second time he was trying to take of my trousers and that when I was repeating no he just didn’t listen he was on top of me and I could not get up he was kissing me and that but again I wasn’t in to it I was telling him no but he still wouldn’t get up he was proper scaring me I don’t know whether I brought it on myself or maybe because I was high he wants a relationship and what but after what I saw a few days ago I am proper scared this is the first time we’ve ever got high like this and so I don’t know if it’s because of that but I’ve seen him in a completely different light
11. November 2015
You said the word ‘No’ and he still carried on, you have to speak to someone professional about this and stay away from this guy. You aren’t to blame at all, despite being high, that’s still not a reason for you to have been forced to do something you decided you didn’t want to do. I understand you’re probably in shock, but please do seek help.
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9. November 2015

We didn’t say it. We didn’t have to. We both knew what this was. The end of the road. The closing of the curtains. The sun setting on everything that we were, everything we weren’t and everything that two people like us could never be to one another.
This was the last time we would reside in the world we built together from the scraps of ourselves that we offered up. Three years, four months and seventeen days about to be packed up, stored away and eventually forgotten as if we’d never existed. Three years, four months and seventeen days of 2am phone calls, half assed ‘How are you’s to ease our way into the ‘Are you free tonight? I wanna see you’s, time … Read more HERE
Hey oloni, I’m in my 2nd year of uni and I have been “dating” the same boy from mid/late 1st year the more time I spend with him the more I can feel myself catching feelings. He’s not me he doesn’t want a relationship and at the time I was cool with that because neither did I but sometimes he takes me out and he really does treat me like his girl he is always respectful and his friends even know about us. He just doesn’t publically claim me so I don’t claim him.
9. November 2015
You have to speak about things, because it’s obvious you want more now. See what he says and believe him.
Hi, I am still friends with a guy I used to hook up with. We have been through ups and downs (we didn’t speak to each for a long time and have only recently started talking) and now we are in a really good place as friends. Because we are friends now he has told me has a girlfriend who he has been seeing for over a year. My heart just sank when he told me, its not that I have still have feelings for him. Its just I feel like I’m never ever going to find someone and get into a serious relationship. All the guys I meet are just interested in sex and not in me and what I have to offer. I am really feeling a bit shit and don’t know how to pick myself up.
9. November 2015
You have to stop assuming that a boyfriend will make you feel better about yourself. You’ll run mad! I think you need to ask yourself why you’re only meeting these type of guy, because there are others out there who want exactly what you’d like, a commitment. Try going to new places to meet new men!
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