You need to start distancing yourself from him as you’re playing with fire. The only one here who is capable of getting burnt is you, not him. It’s good that you’re honest with your emotions, however you need to realise why it’s a bad idea if you keep communicating with him. If you truly want to solve this, you’ll delete his number (block) and move on.

It seems as though you’ve tried all the normal things possible. I have a feeling it could be vaginismus but I’d suggest you speak to your gp.

Going through his phone wasn’t the greatest move, but it seems like you already knew deep down that he couldn’t be trusted. What you saw was very inappropriate and a good enough reason to leave the relationship. Speak to him and let him know what you’ve seen.

There might be a chance that you’re not sexually compatible. First off, you need to tell him that you’re not achieving an oragsm each time you have sex. You can’t force him to give you oral pleasure but he may look for new ways to sexually satisfy you. I understand that it’s annoying, because you’re clearly reminiscing about the last time you had great sex with someone else … so try the things I mentioned and see how it goes. You could even introduce toys into the room if you wanted.

Your issue isn’t with him, it’s with your friend, when these situations occur it’s best to have a conversation, but also wise if you start keeping things to yourself, since she has demonstrated that she can’t be trusted.