Heyyy,

In short your boyfriend (in the least offensive way possible) lacks manners and is completely out of order. Hoe really shouldn’t be in his vocabulary when referring to any woman especially his girlfriend and I think the fact that he used that is very worrying, I’m not surprised that you still have him on block. There are two ways to go about this, you either reach out to him and make it VERY CLEAR that this is the last time you’re willing to accept such verbal abuse and that the next time you’re out. Or you wait for him to reach out to you and genuinely apologise, after which you still make it clear that you’re not tolerating that again. Of course there’s the option of leaving but here’s the thing I think the “hoe” thing can definitely be a cut off offence but the first part (the remarks about your body) may have just been him either trying to lighten the mood or an attempt at making you feel more confident about yourself which got lost in the sauce. Miscommunication can lead to both people getting frustrated especially when the intention wasn’t to offend. So it’s really down to what you think you can tolerate, whether this is a consistent thing and whether you feel like there’s more to his words than is obvious to me. hope this helped.

Best of luck,

-Ebi. A

Hey girl,

He’s rude. Leave it at that and keep it moving. If he contacts you again you can bring it up, if not go on with life and prosper.

-Ebi. A

Hey lovely,

This sounds super suspect. It’s possible that he might have only been hanging around to take your virginity and bounce. Unfortunately, there are  useless guys who still put in a lot of effort just to play girls (a different breed of waste man). Either way, you’re pregnant. I would say based on his behaviour, make up your mind about what you want to do before you speak to him, so that you’re not easily swayed into making any decisions to please him. Do not make any decisions in an attempt to keep him, make him want you, please him, get his attention. Just like he walked out of your life now, he can walk out of your life at any other point. This is time for you to think about yourself. Assume you’re not in a relationship (personally I don’t think you are) and make a decision based on that. Surround yourself with family and friends during this time but be careful, you need a clear mind, sometimes too many opinions can really confuse the hell out of you and stress you out even more,  so be selective, this is a time you need to think about yourself and educate yourself on your options and the real life repercussions of any decision you make. First step would be to go to a trusted family member and tell them exactly what is going on. It won’t be easy but you will be fine. Good luck.

–Ebi. A

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Oh lord. It’s quite insensitive, yes. That’s the mother of his kids and although it makes you uncomfortable you picked the wrong battle to fight. If I was one of those kids I wouldn’t speak to you either. It’s not just your house.  The real issue is you feel excluded and you’d like some family portraits of your own, so instead you should have brought that to husbands attention, not try to get rid of photos including his ex-wife. Have another conversation with him after you’ve thought deeply about this and apologise if you want a happy marriage.