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hiya, I have a bestfriend (girl) shes in a relationship with a boy and she is 100% straight, she tells me she would never “do this” with anyone else.. what I mean by that is, couple months ago she came round mine to bleach her weave, as i was waiting for her hair to change colour i got in my bed and layed down, she proceeded to do the same.. she was showing me something on her phone… after she showed me she locked her phone and started kissing me everywhere.. long story short we had sex and thats happened twice, we have never spoken about it but its awkward everytime she comes to my house. I feel like were gonna drift apart soon, what should I do please?? x
16. January 2016
She might be bisexual, but that’s honestly besides the point. You’re both clearly attracted to each other and it’d be healthy if you had an honest open conversation about it, as you’re either treating it like the elephant in the room, or sweeping it under the rug. You could also both just be exploring your sexuality, but when one person is in a committed relationship, it isn’t right. Your next step should be what I mentioned prior, TALK about it.
‘I was hoping we could have a conversation about what happened the other day…’
Hey Oloni over the weekend I found out that my boyfriend and his ex are having a baby via ivf because she helped him stay in this country so he promised her his sperm. I did not found out by my boyfriend telling me but by his behaviour and he had to come clean two days before their clinic appointment which he would have gone to without me knowing. The fact is he was not just helping but also entertaining sexual conversations with her he said they never had sex and I should believe that. I want to forgive him and move on but he is becoming more upset then me saying I need to forgive him and just act like nothing has happened that will make him happy. Some days am okay some days I just can’t stand Talking to him and it looks like break up is on the cards not only from me but from him also because he thinking I am locking him out.
16. January 2016
This is a whole lot of us messy and it’s very clear why a break up, would be on the rise. There’s lack of communication. There’s also secrets, lies and so much more. He should have told you about the agreement he had with the woman who helped him stay in the the country, but that doesn’t excuse the conversations he entertains with her. Personally I feel as though much more is going on between him and his ex, there has to be. You also need to sit down and be wise in this situation. Do you really see yourself having a future with someone who was about to give their sperm to another woman behind your back? Be sharp hun.
Hiya oloni, I have a dilemma but it’s not about me, my best friend is dating my cousin even though I both warned them not to dating one another.however, my cousin is cheating on my best friend with three other girls and I don’t know whether to tell my best friend or not ? If I keep quiet and don’t say anything at all and it all comes out that my best friend won’t be my friend anymore. However, if I tell my friend then my cousin will disown me for putting my best friend over him….. Also one thing which has annoyed me so much is that I’ve “entertained” the three other girls in my house when they’ve came with my cousin.
16. January 2016
Hey hun, urgh it’s a tough one, but you’re going to have to stay out of this one. They’re both extremely close people to you, but frankly this isn’t your business to stick your nose in. I understand you care about your best friend, but I do believe you should let her work it out herself.
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