Hey lovely,

There are endless possibilities, he could be a player or he could just be in a bad space or going through some things, either way it’s rude and you’re better off taking the necessary steps required to move forward. There’s no point obsessing over his reasons because even if he does give a reason who is to say that it’s the truth? So just do you girl, time will tell, if it’s meant to be it will be.

-Eb. A

Hey lovely,

He’s basically trying to say you’re emotionally detached but doesn’t know how to say that. The expectation is that because you’re a woman you’d be at least overtly “emotional” when dealing with certain situations, but this assumption doesn’t consider the fact that there are woman out there that aren’t as forthcoming with their emotions, which doesn’t necessarily mean they are less emotional, it just means they process their emotions in a different way/don’t feel comfortable being “emotional” in front of someone else. It’s only been 5 months he needs to understand that you have a different way of doing things and that it’s nothing personal (if there’s a reason why you’re this way explain ie. previous relationships/upbringing, explain that to him. Then make it clear to him that for you to move forward he will need to give you practical advice, so things he wants you to do more of and then you try and implement that without it being forced (in an uncomfortable way).

Good luck

-Ebi. A

Hey,

What you need to do is communicate to him EXACTLY what you have written here, to us it seems like you could actually leave him for this if he doesn’t fix up but have you made that clear to him? He might just see it as something that mildly irritates you and something you’ll get over. I must admit it’s not a pleasant habit at all and I’d probably feel the same but all you can do is communicate without sugarcoating, if he refuses to listen or at least compromise by picking up another habit that isn’t as grim then leave. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

Cut this friend off. She’s not dumb. She just knows you won’t say anything. No “best friend” is above getting deleted out of your life. If you like you can explain why you’re cutting her off but tbh that’s assuming you think she’s stupid and she can’t be that daft. Look at it this way, maybe you haven’t had any true real feelings for the guys she has gone and swiped BUT there will be a time when you get into a serious relationship with a guy who you love/share a lot with, be it happiness or pain (in the sense of a bad ending/an overall bad experience) and she will do the same thing and it will hurt. Also what happens if you ever get married? I also think friends who do this are insecure to a fault, to the point where their insecurities have the potential to impact your life greatly in a very destructive manner and those are not friends worth having, those are what you call liabilities. Lastly, I also think friends like this usually want what you have and it rarely stops at guys, it soon becomes everything down to your career choices or your other friends. So nip it in the bud now, find better friends and prosper.

-Ebi. A

Heyyy,

In short your boyfriend (in the least offensive way possible) lacks manners and is completely out of order. Hoe really shouldn’t be in his vocabulary when referring to any woman especially his girlfriend and I think the fact that he used that is very worrying, I’m not surprised that you still have him on block. There are two ways to go about this, you either reach out to him and make it VERY CLEAR that this is the last time you’re willing to accept such verbal abuse and that the next time you’re out. Or you wait for him to reach out to you and genuinely apologise, after which you still make it clear that you’re not tolerating that again. Of course there’s the option of leaving but here’s the thing I think the “hoe” thing can definitely be a cut off offence but the first part (the remarks about your body) may have just been him either trying to lighten the mood or an attempt at making you feel more confident about yourself which got lost in the sauce. Miscommunication can lead to both people getting frustrated especially when the intention wasn’t to offend. So it’s really down to what you think you can tolerate, whether this is a consistent thing and whether you feel like there’s more to his words than is obvious to me. hope this helped.

Best of luck,

-Ebi. A