Hey,

Your boyfriend is being ridiculous and I’m sorry that’s the “first time” experience you’ve had. What you need to do is tell your boyfriend to read a book and educate himself. Everyone is different. He needs to get himself together and approach you correctly because he’s being very disrespectful. Maybe take him to the sexual health clinic and talk with a professional so he get’s some professional insight into how these things work. As for you I personally hope this is just the first time he has shown signs of being so paranoid and controlling (going along the assumption that you haven’t given him any reason to be) because if it isn’t this is worrying and if it isn’t nipped in the bud asap it can get really messy and can turn into him questioning/controlling your every move. So book an appointment at the clinic where you both can explain exactly what happened and seek advice and make it very clear to him that that behaviour can’t run.

Good luck,

-Ebi. A

Hey lovely,

There are endless possibilities, he could be a player or he could just be in a bad space or going through some things, either way it’s rude and you’re better off taking the necessary steps required to move forward. There’s no point obsessing over his reasons because even if he does give a reason who is to say that it’s the truth? So just do you girl, time will tell, if it’s meant to be it will be.

-Eb. A

Hey lovely,

He’s basically trying to say you’re emotionally detached but doesn’t know how to say that. The expectation is that because you’re a woman you’d be at least overtly “emotional” when dealing with certain situations, but this assumption doesn’t consider the fact that there are woman out there that aren’t as forthcoming with their emotions, which doesn’t necessarily mean they are less emotional, it just means they process their emotions in a different way/don’t feel comfortable being “emotional” in front of someone else. It’s only been 5 months he needs to understand that you have a different way of doing things and that it’s nothing personal (if there’s a reason why you’re this way explain ie. previous relationships/upbringing, explain that to him. Then make it clear to him that for you to move forward he will need to give you practical advice, so things he wants you to do more of and then you try and implement that without it being forced (in an uncomfortable way).

Good luck

-Ebi. A

Hey,

What you need to do is communicate to him EXACTLY what you have written here, to us it seems like you could actually leave him for this if he doesn’t fix up but have you made that clear to him? He might just see it as something that mildly irritates you and something you’ll get over. I must admit it’s not a pleasant habit at all and I’d probably feel the same but all you can do is communicate without sugarcoating, if he refuses to listen or at least compromise by picking up another habit that isn’t as grim then leave. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

Cut this friend off. She’s not dumb. She just knows you won’t say anything. No “best friend” is above getting deleted out of your life. If you like you can explain why you’re cutting her off but tbh that’s assuming you think she’s stupid and she can’t be that daft. Look at it this way, maybe you haven’t had any true real feelings for the guys she has gone and swiped BUT there will be a time when you get into a serious relationship with a guy who you love/share a lot with, be it happiness or pain (in the sense of a bad ending/an overall bad experience) and she will do the same thing and it will hurt. Also what happens if you ever get married? I also think friends who do this are insecure to a fault, to the point where their insecurities have the potential to impact your life greatly in a very destructive manner and those are not friends worth having, those are what you call liabilities. Lastly, I also think friends like this usually want what you have and it rarely stops at guys, it soon becomes everything down to your career choices or your other friends. So nip it in the bud now, find better friends and prosper.

-Ebi. A