Urgh. For some reason I smell major bs if I’m totally honest, any guy who is REALLY feeling you, will make an effort to call message, facetime, etc etc. His laid back approach just shows he’s not too bothered and he’s passing it off on you by saying you’re not ‘affectionate’.  I wouldn’t worry too much about gestures and body language, however you can make calls or message him. At least see if it’s reciprocated.. body language, affection and gestures in my experience will follow after.

Heya. Make sure you’re ready mentally as you mentioned you were ‘seeing’ him not dating.  If he truly likes you, being a virgin should not be something that’ll chase him off. In this case it’s totally up to you, you can either just let it happen, or you can tell him straight. The decision  really is yours. Just remember to practice safe sex and do a lot of research on contraception.

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Hey lovely,

It’s not the end of the world. Just tell him. The thing with these things it’s all about approaching the person with love and also being proactive enough to give practical help so that they know you really mean well. So start off saying something like “babes I’ve been noticing an odour coming from your mouth for a while now and I was wondering if we can set up an appointment with your GP so we can get to the root of this because it might be a sign of underlying health issues and I’m worried” << that approach is different to simply saying “your breath stinks” which is often used to cuss people so when it’s actually an issue people get all defensive because they think you’re attacking them. So find out his GP and you both can book an appointment for him and go together. It may also have something to do with his diet. Dairy products can set that off, halitosis also, H. Pylori could be an issue, it could be something to do with his dental hygiene or his stomach/tonsils/throat, various things. It’s important to not assume that it’s because he simply doesn’t brush his teeth, especially if you see him do that daily because that might not be the case either. There are so many causes. Also don’t assume he doesn’t know, some people do and just have zero clue what to do about it so get used to it. So you (one of the people who care about him) should be the last person to chicken out when it comes to telling him the truth. Discussing things about the body can be awks but I do think if approached well you can find a solution.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

Your boyfriend is being ridiculous and I’m sorry that’s the “first time” experience you’ve had. What you need to do is tell your boyfriend to read a book and educate himself. Everyone is different. He needs to get himself together and approach you correctly because he’s being very disrespectful. Maybe take him to the sexual health clinic and talk with a professional so he get’s some professional insight into how these things work. As for you I personally hope this is just the first time he has shown signs of being so paranoid and controlling (going along the assumption that you haven’t given him any reason to be) because if it isn’t this is worrying and if it isn’t nipped in the bud asap it can get really messy and can turn into him questioning/controlling your every move. So book an appointment at the clinic where you both can explain exactly what happened and seek advice and make it very clear to him that that behaviour can’t run.

Good luck,

-Ebi. A