Hey,

I honestly think he’s not that interested in you. The fact that we’re now at the end of January and you have no idea whether he likes you is a HUGE red flag. Stop making excuses for his behaviour, he probably isn’t afraid of the age difference, if he was he wouldn’t have gone there in the first place. Let this one go. Because  this thing he calls “chilling” is a situationship and those never end well. You’re young don’t let someone hold you back from prospering please and when if he eventually ever feels ready to be in a relationship he will come to you and make that clear. But for now it’s time to duck out and you do that by wearing less and going out more. I joke, you do that by distancing yourself and focusing on other things.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

Win him back for what? I don’t understand how that became your role. I can understand expecting mutual effort at this point but as for him expecting you to fight for him as if he didn’t offend you is quite absurd. Tell him where you’re at on this situation and tell him you’re struggling to trust him, see what he says and how you believe he needs to respect your feelings/concerns…start there, if he’s still being disrespectful then your only other option is to move forward and just maintain a professional work relationship with him and the girl.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

By weighing up the opportunity cost of hanging about and identifying the things you value. I personally think if it’s meant to be it will be even if you go on and do your own thing. I don’t believe in putting your own life, happiness and well-being on pause for anyone, I see having to do that as a sign that you’re not compatible at that moment in time. When you’re both on the same page pursue that situation, but for as long as you’re not, do you (doing you doesn’t necessarily mean seeing other people, it means you’re open to it and your life is not on pause).

-Ebi. A

Hey lovely,

This happens to a lot of girls. There are various reasons. But typically you’re not the guys only option when dating so it’s bound to happen when people are getting to know more than one person at a time, that’s my theory at least. I’m sure different guys have their own unique reasons but listen you’re 20, don’t rush or force anything. Don’t even internalise it, as far as none of them are telling you why they ducked out, all you can do is just go with the flow and maybe only entertain guys that come to you sure of what they want and fully understand exactly what you want. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

What happened was the condom break scared him and reality hit him that you are definitely NOT the woman he wants a child with. He knew he had no intention of getting into a relationship with you but continued because that’s what sleazy guys do when they know someone else wants more. So see this condom break as this momentary eureka moment like “wow I almost became a father with someone I don’t plan to take seriously” and then as they do, he sent you a text telling you exactly what it is and as a lot of women do, you’re trying to fight it because you’re hurt. Instead of fighting it, take this as your LUCKY ESCAPE, you  dodged a bullet, had that condom break have never occurred he’d probably continue sleeping with you and playing with your feelings. So no, don’t contact him. If you need to vent write down how you feel but this is definitely someone you need to go cold turkey on and not message because he can’t give you what you want and let’s be real you’re low-key also upset at the fact that you didn’t see it coming and you probably wanted more, after all the way he handled it in the end is probably just one of many other reasons why you’re upset. So go cold turkey, block him, distract yourself, surround yourself with friends (even though you probs don’t want to) and eventually date again and remember how dope you are. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A