There are many times in a woman’s life where she will appreciate being alone but I think it is safe to say that even the most independent of women can’t turn a blind eye to Valentine’s Day – whether loved or loathed – it is undeniably hanging on the tip of tongues as we edge closer towards the date. Love is definitely in the air but during such a relationship-focused celebration where is a single woman’s place on Valentine’s Day?

If you scour the Internet you will be sure to find articles compiling a list of suggestions for a single woman to successfully navigate her way through Valentine’s Day unscathed. For example, treating … read more HERE 

Your boyfriend is an idiot and the only reason his ex felt comfortable enough  to try and have sex with him or even come to the airport,  is because he allowed her to feel that way. You need to take a step back and evaluate this relationship, because someone is getting played. This isn’t normal behaviour. He’s acting as if you’re both sisterwives and if that isn’t the case, you need to have a serious conversation about his relationship with his ex.

– Oloni

Hey there,

From what I’m reading I’m assuming this issue has been on-going for the best part of three years (I got that from the all of uni bit). If that is the case, (if it isn’t write in again) then I honestly think he’s not that into you and you’re just an option. I personally feel like you definitely should NOT hang about waiting for him to change his mind. See the thing is someone can be cool but can also be leading you on and stringing you along, don’t think for one moment that cool guys can’t do that (i’m purposely not considering intentions here because those don’t matter). So just like he is focused on other things, you choose to be focused on other things and do not count on him to be the one that you’ll get into a relationship with, don’t lock off potentials for him because right now he is just a guy who is either confused or doesn’t want to be with YOU but happens to be nice. Besides, the bad communication skills and his inability to express himself are not things you need in a relationship, that leads to nothing good. Best of luck girl and pretty please don’t land yourself in a “situationship” (check Oloni’s blog to find out what it is if you don’t know about it), if your situation with this guy sounds like that, you’ve got to leave this one in the past.

-Ebi.A

Hey,

Firstly a lot of guys write in so no it’s not weird lmao. I think you’re confused and I think you really need to take some time out and weigh up your options, so if you ask me, no relationship for you right now haha. I think by the way in which you described them both you gave pro’s and con’s for both *side eye to the body and face comparisons* lool, but what you need to do is genuinely ask yourself does Toni’s temper worry you, don’t assume you can handle it, ask yourself honestly because she can motivate you so much but can RUIN anything you’ve built for yourself with that temper. I’m not saying reserved girls are the best what I’m saying is that it’s important that your girl knows how to carry herself in public, knows how to communicate appropriately and it’s important she represents you well, same way it’s important you represent her well. There’s a lot to lose when someone has limited control of their emotions. I don’t think you should stay with your ex just for the fact that you took her virginity because she may be better off without you (it happens) but I do think that if you do have feelings for her and you want to work  on the things that you claim are not same anymore, then do it. That’s my opinion based on the limited info you provided but please do think carefully about it and weigh up more of these factors: values each hold/character/behaviour things like that….face and body won’t save your relationship when shxt hits the fan.

-Ebi.A

Hey,

The right man for you will understand that that’s simply an important question to ask when working your way into a relationship. You technically can’t “ruin” something by simply wanting clarity. A guy who sees you asking a simple question on his views on relationships and you stating your views on relationships as “ruining” the moment isn’t a guy that planned to take you seriously in the first place and being hesitant to ask the necessary questions is EXACTLY how people end up in situationships (and I’m sure you know all too well that in situationships the guy are almost always VERY vocal as to what they want but we ladies are sitting there afraid to offend). Don’t water down your points, say it as it is and hope that he respects it, if he doesn’t then he’s not the one for you. Something like “I want to know whether or not you’re getting to know me with the hopes of eventually pursuing a relationship with me or you have no plans to get in one” and don’t accept ‘I just want to see where things go” as a valid answer. Make it clear that you want to know exactly what he is seeking.

-Ebi.A