Hey,

I think you should let this one go. You can always care for someone, but he’s not  going about in the right way and even if he’s not purposely trying to hurt you, sometimes when you haven’t fully healed from something you can end up hurting others. Now you’ve identified this behaviour, it is for you to leave the situation for your own protection. There’s no point forcing anything, protect yourself at all costs, take the signs for what they are and don’t settle for being second best, because right now that’s what you are to him and until he says otherwise that’s what you will continue to be.

-Ebi

Hey,

You can’t force anything but what you can do is see where things go. Sometimes physical attraction can come afterwards.  No harm in seeing where it goes since you do think he would make a good partner and then seeing whether or not you begin to find him attractive. This sort of thing happens when you’re trying to transition from a really dope friendship to a relationship, so just go with the flow and see where it goes and just know when to nip it in the bud.

-Ebi

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Hey I agree with you 5 months is definitely enough time to know where the both of you are going. It seems like he may not want what you do, and if after 5 months he’s unsure, then it’s a red flag. When coaching women who have been in this position I’ve often advised them to leave, because before you know it this will turn into a year and become a lot harder for you to leave. Wise up hun and don’t get played.

-Oloni