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Hey, Assume he’s not that into you, until he proves otherwise. Actions matter, if his actions don’t match up to his words, don’t take any of his words seriously, you owe it to yourself to guard your feelings, so move on, when he’s ready, if he’s ever ready, he will let you know. -Ebi Hey, What seems to be happening here is that you both seem to have different love languages, you liked to be loved in different ways and you love in different ways. So what you need to do is take some time to communicate and research these differences, (there are many sources on the internet that go into depth on love languages and books) once you understand that, it will help you not to take his lack of romantic expression as personally as you usually do and it will allow you to refocus on the ways in which he does show love so that you realise that he has actually been doing what you’ve wanted him to do all this time just in the best way he knows how. I also think understanding your love languages will allow you both to make extra effort to compromise and please each other in the way you both want eventually. It won’t happen overnight but as long as you set the ball rolling. Also sometimes we feel this way because we compare our situation to that of others, it’s so unhealthy because there will be things that your boyfriend does for you that other ladies literally have to force out of their own boyfriends. So it goes both ways, so don’t let it get you down. Also you need to stop seeing his attempts to do exactly what you say you want done as forced. I know it’s easy to look at it that way, but that’s not a fair outlook, after all he is doing exactly what you said you wanted him to do and it would be unfair to not show at least some appreciation for the effort. Hope this helps. -Ebi Lingerie Ideas For Valentine’s Day Hey, I can understand why you’d be offended. All you can do in this situation is communicate your feelings for the sake of your friendship and if you’re not on the same page, kindly exit the situation and work on your friendship instead. Ask him straight up whether or not he is sleeping with other people, this girl in particular and emphasise if he wants you to continue to have a friendship he’s gonna have to be truthful even if it’s something you may not like to hear and if you find out he’s lying then you can’t continue with your friendship. That’s all you need to do, never be afraid to ask, guys do it all the time. -Ebi Hey, The fact that you’re writing in makes it seem that this is not something that you want or are comfortable with. So I say let that be known and DO NOT under any circumstance pretend that you are fine with it. What you need to do is tell him your standpoint and ask him to tell you honestly his reasons for wanting to have a threesome and what happens now that you do not want one? See what he says because it may be just a passing thought or it may be indicative of something deeper than he wants fulfilled, like he may feel like you both need to spice things up. So ask him what his genuine issues are. Also put things into perspective by letting him know that he wouldn’t appreciate it if you suggested a threesome with another man. Hope this helps. -Ebi Hey lovely, Witholding that information isn’t lying unless you’re asked, but at the same time it’s not a must that whoever you’re seeing needs to know. But here’s the thing, don’t withhold the information just to keep a guy, that kind of guy isn’t the guy for you, that doesn’t mean he is bad, it just means you’re not compatible. You deserve to be yourself and still be accepted for who you are. So yes keep it to yourself if you want, but make sure your intentions for doing so are more for you than the other person, because that same person can sleep with you and then question why you don’t seem to be as experienced when having sex, what then? Also don’t be in a rush to have sex, make sure you’re not rushing into it for the wrong reasons. -Ebi
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