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This is crazy behaviour and I’m disappointed to hear the police have been zero use. However, you’re going to have to keep on going back to them and continue to file a report about this insane guy. Take photos of his car pulled outside your house, take screen shots of the number that constantly calls, document it all and keep disturbing the police till this is dealt with. I really do hope this helps. – Also, do not contact his girlfriend any more. Oloni If these feelings are getting stronger, girl do yourself a favour and back up from the friendship. It’s not a great idea if you’re constantly spending time with someone you not only have feelings for, but ALSO has a girlfriend. You’ve developed a great friendship with someone, so it’s okay to take a hiatus from what you both have. There’s no point telling a committed person that you have emotions for them as it’s just disrespectful. The only way to move past these feelings is to honestly give the friendship a break. Oloni Have a conversation with him about it. Oloni It’s what Valentine’s Day is about. You’re supposed to be out with a loved one, a friend, a partner. A first date on Vals makes a lot of sense. I always encourage people to spend the day with a crush or someone they’ve been eyeing up for a while. Enjoy yourself. Oloni Hey lovely, What you need to do is go through the motions, don’t rush your healing just go through the motions. Block him on everything, you really don’t need to be seeing how “great” his life may be without you. You need to remember that you’re the shit, work on making yourself be better, work on the things you previously didn’t like about yourself. Some people go to the gym more, some people shop a lot and buy all the things they’ve always wanted, some people work on their spirituality, some people surround themselves with their friends, some people go out more and make new friends. There isn’t just one way to get over him and it is trial and error, so take it easy on yourself and if you feel one way isn’t working for you, find another way that feels more comfortable. Lastly, chasing your passions is one of the surest ways of getting over a guy. What happens is that you feel like you begin to accomplish more things without him than you did with him, so you have no incentive to look back fondly, because who you were then is no longer who you are now, you would have gained so much more and rekindling things (if that ever becomes an option, although right now it isn’t) may seem like going backwards, especially if he’s not the kind to grow with you. Also I find turning your unforgiveness into pity helps. Unforgiveness is to say you expected more, meaning he fell short of the level you expected him to be on, pity is to tap him on his yam head condescendingly and say “poor you, you didn’t know any better because you’re a bit of an idiot” that feels better doesn’t it haha and it automatically puts them below you (sounds mean but who cares, you gotta do what you gotta do and it’s better than hatred)….eventually you’ll get to a point where your pity eases in genuine forgiveness, but I find it’s easier done that way than through bitterness and anger. Hope this helps. -Ebi




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