What he’s saying is that the more he got to know you the more beautiful you became to him. His attraction grew stronger and yes it’s very possible for this to happen, in fact it’s so common between couples.

Oloni

What are the mixed messages she’s sending and how long have you been speaking for? Please write in with just a bit more info.

Oloni

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Hey,

It’s different for different people, for me random girls won’t bother me as much as photos of people I know.  But the way I look at it it’s about both of you considering each others feelings, you may be naturally more considerate than the other person, but the other person may not see it as that deep until you make it known that it offends you.  So when it comes to it, people don’t always like photos with bad intentions or with that much thought behind it, but I do believe if I tell you something is bothering me and you continue to do it then that act then becomes inappropriate, before that I’m just more likely to think you have zero chill if it’s people I’m close to and it just becomes off-putting.

-Ebi

Hey girl,

You’re just gonna have to be like, “Hey I know we’re cool but I don’t think meeting you at yours is appropriate considering this is the first time, so if you don’t mind I’d rather somewhere public”. There are probably like four ways a guy can respond to this, “…” so he completely airs you (you’ve got your answer count your lucky stars), “that’s cool, where do you want to go then?” <<< (this guy is marriage material), “it’s not that deep” (this type of guy is a catfish and probably has the maddest hairline in real life, either that or he azonto battles his housemates in a circle at bait raves) or “well I was gonna cook for you, that’s why I invited you round” (80% of the time this is a trap, stay woke babes). All jokes aside, if you don’t like something, you need to speak, most times, come round and chill is the easiest most cost-effective option especially at university, but if that’s not what you want just say.

-Ebi

Aww hey there, thanks so much for your kind words, it means a lot and Oloni will see this too :),  okay, I’m actually going to get a cup of tea….got it now, so let’s go haha. Here’s what I think, I think you need to talk to him about it. Yes I know there are rules and blah blah blah but I’m a huge believer in connections and vibes, when you connect with someone and you’re sure that connection is felt on his side too, I’m all about ripping out some of the pages in that rule book and just communicating. I think sometimes we stick so much to rules that we sacrifice our emotional health. Yes the usual way of doing things is waiting till month two or three to ask questions, but I always think there are certain things that can be communicated much earlier but in a talking-stage friendly way. By that I mean if you think “what are we?” after week 2 will make him run then maybe say something like, “I’ve noticed that we don’t talk as often as we used to, so let me know what’s going on so I know everything is okay”…if you want it to be a bit more light hearted you can throw in a bit of humour and just say, “Look, I’m not trying to marry you already, a girl just needs to know that she’s not about to perish in the land of uncertainty”. I just think we know ourselves and if you know for a fact that you’re the type of girl to obsess over something that isn’t going right and that that thing will impact your mood in one way or another, then of what use is that rule to you, when you’re basically suffering in silence. I also think if open communication makes a man run away at any stage then he’s simply not the one for you, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy it just means that’s not the kind of guy you need right now. So as long as you know you’re asking a question with your emotional and mental well-being in mind then no matter the response you get you should be happy and content with your decision to ask. Eventually you’ll get to a space where you don’t feel neglected, if you don’t communicate as often but until you get to that space (which is often after trust is built and some sort of strong foundation is set) then ask the necessary questions whilst keeping approach in mind. That’s you putting yourself first and nipping all the things that have the potential to consistently affect your mood in the bud asap. I’m sure I even read somewhere that that’s the key to looking like a 12 year old at 50. Hope this helps.

-Ebi

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