Talking just consists of speaking on the phone, facetiming, skyping, texting or messaging – this should literally only last for a couple of weeks, if you’re both interested in each other. Dating is when you spend time together outside of each others home. So think of dinner, going out for drinks etc. This should only last for a couple of months. . .

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Hey,

You just need to speak. I know that sounds so simple but that’s actually all you need to do. Just say, you feel like you want to know where he’s at right now about your situation just because it’s important to you to always be on the same page with whoever you are talking to at any given time. That’s all. If he turns out to not be on the same page as you, you need to make the necessary adjustments to avoid disappointment and hurt. Hope this helps.

-Ebi

Hey,

I’m so sorry. Sending healing and love your way. What is happening here is that he has no understanding of how to deal with your depression.  I feel as though depression is really hard for some people to understand because people have various experiences with depression which means there’s never one right way to go about it. It’s also down to the individual, things that may trigger negative emotions for you may not necessarily be a trigger for other people suffering from depression, it’s so complex in nature.  I also think he may not fully comprehend exactly how sensitive you are, especially if he hasn’t experienced depression himself. Someone being used to the fact that this is your experience doesn’t necessarily mean that they have any clue how to deal with it, sometimes it can really be trial and error. I also think what is happening here is that his sensitivity may also be drying out not only down to a lack of knowledge but the fact that this has ALWAYS been your experience, people just get more direct after a while which isn’t necessarily nice. So as for solutions, I genuinely think you should go to a counsellor together and separately. You need to work on your healing (don’t rush it, it’s a journey <3) But you also need him to be in some counselling sessions so he knows how to love you through this. Sometimes people need to be taught these things for all the reasons I mentioned above. Him hearing that from someone other than you may be what he needs to love you through this in the way you want to be loved. These counsellors will have experience with people in relationships dealing with depression and should give you the best advice on some of the important ways of dealing with it. Finally, you need to work on your healing yourself because you don’t want your happiness to be dependent on anyone but you. If your happiness is in someone else there are two things that happen, you feel entitled to a certain behaviour from them which when you break it down might actually be unreasonable/unattainable given the nature of what he may be going through, the second thing that happens is if they leave you, your happiness leaves with them and that’s unhealthy. You need to find ways to cope and heal outside of the support of your boyfriend (yes it’s nice and helpful and he is your boyfriend) but the truth is sometimes he will fall short, you need to speak with the counsellor about ways to cope in those moments. I pray for your healing lovely and hope this helped.

-Ebi