Hey love,

Write in again and provide more detail because I won’t be able to tell you whether I think he is manipulating you from what you’ve provided. But stay safe. Manipulation isn’t a joke.

Ebi. A

Heyyy,

It’s all about what you value more. Sometimes there are things we’re just not willing to compromise on and you need to ask yourself honestly whether this is one of them. No-one is perfect but you owe it to yourself to nip something that you know for sure probably won’t work out in the long-term earlier on to avoid unnecessary stress. Don’t force anything. The being supported by her parents thing isn’t bad because she’s 21, she’s still young. But the no ambition aspect of things is something you need to think long and hard about and you must think about it without convincing yourself that you can change her in any way. You do need to take into consideration though that having no ambition is different to being lost/unsure about where/who she wants to be in life which is common for most young people. So maybe observe her a little bit more, pick her brains and try and see whether her apparent content with where she is might just be her way of coping with being/feeling lost, we all act way more content with life than we really are. Has she given you any signs that she wants to change that aspect of her life? If not it’s only fair that you leave her to someone who will accept her for who she is now and right now you’re having second thoughts on whether or not you can do that. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A

Hey girl,

What you do is leave him alone. Let him prosper and find your own man or address the reasons why you get bored easily, fix those issues and you can prosper too.

-Ebi. A

Hey girl,

Without sounding rude is your boyfriends suit alright? At least if he’s going to block you over something like this he should have a decent discussion with you and explain why he thinks you’re overreacting. I personally think everyone is different but I do think it’s all down to the kind of photos he’s liking (there are respectful ways to go about these things). If it’s normal photos of his female friends (so no naked, inappropriate or sexual pictures) then you might have trust issues that need to be addressed. Try not to make it just about the pictures if it’s more than just the pictures because then it just makes you look crazy when there may actually be valid emotions behind your argument. I think you should reach out to him and communicate exactly why you have an issue with it down to the very last detail and try to come to some sort of compromise/understanding.

-Ebi. A

Hey girl,

You need to dead this one. He’s not serious. You’ll swiftly become the side if you’re not careful and when you get burnt he will say “I did tell you I had a girlfriend” and when you feel like snitching to his girlfriend, he would have already painted you out to be a lying demonic side and she will stay with him because she’s stupid in love. He wants to enjoy both of you, he’s simply being the demon that he is. Guys say all sorts of rubbish to get what they want and that includes saying “I have feelings for you”, yes it’s moist but that’s just reality, don’t ignore the signs. Lock him off, don’t bother explaining. move on and prosper. (Blocking him on everything might be your best option, 7 months is long and I can imagine you may feel invested, so go cold turkey, it works in time). Good luck.

-Ebi. A