Hey lovely,

Yes that’s perfectly fine but see here’s the thing, if a guy is really interested in you he’ll put in the effort or at least meet you half way if you get what I mean. So if you find yourself doing that consistently in a situation then it’s probably not really going anywhere (in some cases he might just be extremely comfy with the fact that he hasn’t had to do anything). So I would say go for it when it comes to initiating things/taking that first step and maybe sometimes in the early stages but if it becomes a consistent thing, abort mission and find someone who is at the very least willing to meet you half way. In this life forcing things is something you really shouldn’t have to do because it never ends well.

Ebi A

Hey,

All you need to do is emphasise how important a solid foundation is to you. I’m not a believer in hints when it comes to stuff like this. For anyone who is very aware that can come across patronising and rude. Just directly say to him that you love how things are going but you’re worried that it’s just going to fizzle out (you could even say this is based on past experience if it is) so you’d rather build on the things you think are important, give examples…then take initiative so you can put into practice what you mean, e.g go on dates that will force you to focus/work on those things. It’s something that can’t be forced but you do need to make him aware or it will frustrate you.

Ebi. A

Hey,

There are endless possibilities. One thing is for sure though, he’s rude (in a dating sense). Ignoring one message or two to continue on the next day or at a later date can happen especially with a busy schedule but one thing’s for sure, if he’s consistently ignoring your messages and his phone is clearly still functioning or he’s doing the most on social media then he’s simply just not that into you anymore. (You don’t have to communicate everyday but outright ignoring messages isn’t a good sign imo). So the control you have over this is to keep it pushing and if he comes with a valid excuse/reason you can entertain that as and when.

Ebi. A

If it bothers you, let him know that you would prefer if he never spoke to you about other women he is sleeping/slept with. You also need to distinguish what it is you’re doing with him, because unless you’re both exclusive he can do what he wants despite you not being comfortable with it.

Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you automatically stop looking at the others or stop finding different people attractive. HOWEVER, it can be disrespectful towards your partner if this becomes very frequent and noticeable. This isn’t about being a nagging girlfriend, how would he feel if you kept twisting and bending your neck each time a fairly handsome guy walked past. Sit down and discuss.