Hey,

Cut this friend off. She’s not dumb. She just knows you won’t say anything. No “best friend” is above getting deleted out of your life. If you like you can explain why you’re cutting her off but tbh that’s assuming you think she’s stupid and she can’t be that daft. Look at it this way, maybe you haven’t had any true real feelings for the guys she has gone and swiped BUT there will be a time when you get into a serious relationship with a guy who you love/share a lot with, be it happiness or pain (in the sense of a bad ending/an overall bad experience) and she will do the same thing and it will hurt. Also what happens if you ever get married? I also think friends who do this are insecure to a fault, to the point where their insecurities have the potential to impact your life greatly in a very destructive manner and those are not friends worth having, those are what you call liabilities. Lastly, I also think friends like this usually want what you have and it rarely stops at guys, it soon becomes everything down to your career choices or your other friends. So nip it in the bud now, find better friends and prosper.

-Ebi. A

Heyyy,

In short your boyfriend (in the least offensive way possible) lacks manners and is completely out of order. Hoe really shouldn’t be in his vocabulary when referring to any woman especially his girlfriend and I think the fact that he used that is very worrying, I’m not surprised that you still have him on block. There are two ways to go about this, you either reach out to him and make it VERY CLEAR that this is the last time you’re willing to accept such verbal abuse and that the next time you’re out. Or you wait for him to reach out to you and genuinely apologise, after which you still make it clear that you’re not tolerating that again. Of course there’s the option of leaving but here’s the thing I think the “hoe” thing can definitely be a cut off offence but the first part (the remarks about your body) may have just been him either trying to lighten the mood or an attempt at making you feel more confident about yourself which got lost in the sauce. Miscommunication can lead to both people getting frustrated especially when the intention wasn’t to offend. So it’s really down to what you think you can tolerate, whether this is a consistent thing and whether you feel like there’s more to his words than is obvious to me. hope this helped.

Best of luck,

-Ebi. A

Hey girl,

He’s rude. Leave it at that and keep it moving. If he contacts you again you can bring it up, if not go on with life and prosper.

-Ebi. A

Hey lovely,

This sounds super suspect. It’s possible that he might have only been hanging around to take your virginity and bounce. Unfortunately, there are  useless guys who still put in a lot of effort just to play girls (a different breed of waste man). Either way, you’re pregnant. I would say based on his behaviour, make up your mind about what you want to do before you speak to him, so that you’re not easily swayed into making any decisions to please him. Do not make any decisions in an attempt to keep him, make him want you, please him, get his attention. Just like he walked out of your life now, he can walk out of your life at any other point. This is time for you to think about yourself. Assume you’re not in a relationship (personally I don’t think you are) and make a decision based on that. Surround yourself with family and friends during this time but be careful, you need a clear mind, sometimes too many opinions can really confuse the hell out of you and stress you out even more,  so be selective, this is a time you need to think about yourself and educate yourself on your options and the real life repercussions of any decision you make. First step would be to go to a trusted family member and tell them exactly what is going on. It won’t be easy but you will be fine. Good luck.

–Ebi. A

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