Hey lovely,

It’s not the end of the world. Just tell him. The thing with these things it’s all about approaching the person with love and also being proactive enough to give practical help so that they know you really mean well. So start off saying something like “babes I’ve been noticing an odour coming from your mouth for a while now and I was wondering if we can set up an appointment with your GP so we can get to the root of this because it might be a sign of underlying health issues and I’m worried” << that approach is different to simply saying “your breath stinks” which is often used to cuss people so when it’s actually an issue people get all defensive because they think you’re attacking them. So find out his GP and you both can book an appointment for him and go together. It may also have something to do with his diet. Dairy products can set that off, halitosis also, H. Pylori could be an issue, it could be something to do with his dental hygiene or his stomach/tonsils/throat, various things. It’s important to not assume that it’s because he simply doesn’t brush his teeth, especially if you see him do that daily because that might not be the case either. There are so many causes. Also don’t assume he doesn’t know, some people do and just have zero clue what to do about it so get used to it. So you (one of the people who care about him) should be the last person to chicken out when it comes to telling him the truth. Discussing things about the body can be awks but I do think if approached well you can find a solution.

-Ebi. A

Hey,

Your boyfriend is being ridiculous and I’m sorry that’s the “first time” experience you’ve had. What you need to do is tell your boyfriend to read a book and educate himself. Everyone is different. He needs to get himself together and approach you correctly because he’s being very disrespectful. Maybe take him to the sexual health clinic and talk with a professional so he get’s some professional insight into how these things work. As for you I personally hope this is just the first time he has shown signs of being so paranoid and controlling (going along the assumption that you haven’t given him any reason to be) because if it isn’t this is worrying and if it isn’t nipped in the bud asap it can get really messy and can turn into him questioning/controlling your every move. So book an appointment at the clinic where you both can explain exactly what happened and seek advice and make it very clear to him that that behaviour can’t run.

Good luck,

-Ebi. A

Hey lovely,

There are endless possibilities, he could be a player or he could just be in a bad space or going through some things, either way it’s rude and you’re better off taking the necessary steps required to move forward. There’s no point obsessing over his reasons because even if he does give a reason who is to say that it’s the truth? So just do you girl, time will tell, if it’s meant to be it will be.

-Eb. A

Hey lovely,

He’s basically trying to say you’re emotionally detached but doesn’t know how to say that. The expectation is that because you’re a woman you’d be at least overtly “emotional” when dealing with certain situations, but this assumption doesn’t consider the fact that there are woman out there that aren’t as forthcoming with their emotions, which doesn’t necessarily mean they are less emotional, it just means they process their emotions in a different way/don’t feel comfortable being “emotional” in front of someone else. It’s only been 5 months he needs to understand that you have a different way of doing things and that it’s nothing personal (if there’s a reason why you’re this way explain ie. previous relationships/upbringing, explain that to him. Then make it clear to him that for you to move forward he will need to give you practical advice, so things he wants you to do more of and then you try and implement that without it being forced (in an uncomfortable way).

Good luck

-Ebi. A

Hey,

What you need to do is communicate to him EXACTLY what you have written here, to us it seems like you could actually leave him for this if he doesn’t fix up but have you made that clear to him? He might just see it as something that mildly irritates you and something you’ll get over. I must admit it’s not a pleasant habit at all and I’d probably feel the same but all you can do is communicate without sugarcoating, if he refuses to listen or at least compromise by picking up another habit that isn’t as grim then leave. Hope this helped.

-Ebi. A