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Hi Oloni. I have been going out with my man for 4/5 months. I have a job and I am also a student. He does not work and has been struggling with money since I met him due to student loan issues beyond his control. Now and again I buy him gifts but I have noticed he isn’t willing to get a job. It is now effecting our relationship because I can’t afford to buy him things and be paying for meals out etc. should I leave him or stay? I’ve motivated him and even applied for jobs for him but he seems uninterested. I need help.
11. May 2016
You’re not his mother and he sounds annoying. Move on.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. So I was with my boyfriend on our way to my colleagues baby shower. I wanted to stop to get a gift on the way when I realised I had left my purse at home. I kindly asked my boyfriend to use his card. He hesitantly gave it to me after I said I would spend £10 and pay him back the next day. I left to go and purchase the gift but had then decided to spend £15 (still intending to pay back the full amount). On my return to the car (which I was driving by the way), I met my bf waiting in the passenger seat. I thankfully handed back his bank card and told him that I spent £5 more than expected reassuring him I would pay him back the next day. My bf was really annoyed with me and even swore in anger. I know I told him I would spend less than I actually did but is an extra fiver that you’ll be paid back worth starting an argument over? Am I overthinking this? I need some opinions from both sexes?
10. May 2016
Hey hun, I feel like you should have gotten permission before spending more than you originally said. I get it’s only £5 and honestly it’s not that serious, but you have no idea (or maybe you do) what his financial situation is like. I personally feel like he’s pissed off at the principle and annoyed you forgot your own money. No he shouldn’t have sworn, but I hope you’ve paid him back and apologised.
Oloni
Hey Oloni, what does it mean when your partner gets turned on by the thought of you with several other people? My man keeps talking about how he would to watch me in bed with other men and women. But i can understand the woman part since I’m bisexual but i don’t get how he can comfortable with such. Also he loves the idea of showing me off completely naked to people. is this okay?
10. May 2016
Hey dear, these all sound like fantasies of his which is pretty normal for many. Speak to him about it and get more details as to what aspect turns him on from this all. Remember you don’t have to do any of these things if you’re not comfortable with it.
Oloni
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I have been with my partner for nearly 6 years . It’s got to the point where I have out grown him but I still love him so much . Everyone around me is telling me I can do better. Don’t get me wrong he is a lovely person , my friends and family adore him but I’m at the point right now where I need more . What should I do ? From a 22year old hopelessly in love
10. May 2016
Hey dear, going by what you feel alone, it might be time to have that conversation with him. But first ask yourself how long you’ve felt like this for? What exactly you need ‘more’ of, so that can help identify what it is you’re searching for at this point of your life. 6 years is a very long time, so I have no doubt your love for him is strong, but is love ever enough when it comes to relationships?
Oloni
Hey Oloni.. Me and my ex decided to see how things go between us since we both still have love for eachother but tbh since I agreed with it, I feel like we’re just friends. He doesn’t really make an effort even though he was the one who really wanted to start over again. On top of that, he recently download the periscope app and I checked the followers to see the same girl he had sex with during our time apart.. He had the cheek to follow me after her. Like where’s the respek? And why would he follow her knowing I’m going to see it? Am I overreacting or?
10. May 2016
Yes he does need to put some immediate respeck on it. You have to talk to him about it, and start off with the foundation of your relationship … ‘Baby I don’t think an effort is being made in the way I hoped it would have, how can resolve things?’ – Then move on to the girl he followed and allow him to know you’re uncomfortable with it. I’m sure he’ll be more than happy to unfollow.
Oloni
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