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Hey Oloni.. Me and my ex decided to see how things go between us since we both still have love for eachother but tbh since I agreed with it, I feel like we’re just friends. He doesn’t really make an effort even though he was the one who really wanted to start over again. On top of that, he recently download the periscope app and I checked the followers to see the same girl he had sex with during our time apart.. He had the cheek to follow me after her. Like where’s the respek? And why would he follow her knowing I’m going to see it? Am I overreacting or? 10. May 2016

Yes he does need to put some immediate respeck on it. You have to talk to him about it, and start off with the foundation of your relationship … ‘Baby I don’t think an effort is being made in the way I hoped it would have, how can resolve things?’ – Then move on to the girl he followed and allow him to know you’re uncomfortable with it. I’m sure he’ll be more than happy to unfollow.

Oloni

My bf says he don’t trust me and that all he has is my ‘word’ that i won’t cheat on him (even though I had sex with someone else whilst we were NOT together). Whats the best way to SHOW that your sorry and to rebuild his trust issues with me? 10. May 2016

Hey love, if you haven’t actually cheated I think it’s just his ego that’s slightly bruised because you had sex between the time you weren’t together. What are you apologising for? Having sex whilst single? There isn’t much you can do though, if he can’t trust you, is there any point in continuing the relationship?

Oloni

Hey, so my boyfriend and I are quite new in this relationship but I was seeing him for awhile. He was very honest about the number of people he has slept with which is 25+. At the time I was aware it was a lot but wasn’t affected by it. I think it had to do with the fact that I was a virgin. I’ve lost him it to him and don’t regret it but I know find myself comparing my self to his partners. It’s affecting my relationship with him 10. May 2016

Hey girl. It sounds like you’re quite insecure and it’s perfectly fine, you can’t help how you feel and I completely understand it. I feel like this is a conversation you should have with your partner however. Communicate this to him so he’s aware of your thoughts and feelings. Don’t leave him in the dark or else that will only harm things more.

Good luck, and remember to try and not compare you boyfriends past to his present. One of the aims of your relationship is to try and create memories and more experiences together..so do that, he’s all yours!

Oloni

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Me and my boyfriend are in non stable relationship. We both do a lot of drugs and it’s been that way for 4 years, but recently I’ve gotten a new job and I’ve been clean for 6 months. I’ve tried to tell him he has to change otherwise I’ll leave but he just thinks I’m boring because I don’t depend on drugs anymore. Most of our arguments are about drug consumption. They get pretty physical and then he takes some and passes out. I want to leave but I feel as though I must support him through this and help him get it right. I know he can do it. 10. May 2016

Hey love, first off just want to say congratulations for getting yourself clean for 6 months and finding a job. That’s a massive achievement and you should be very proud of yourself. As for your relationship, hun you and I both know that this has gone past repair. The relationship is extremely unhealthy and toxic and you need to get out of it, especially since you mentioned that things get physical.

I understand you want to help and support him, but can you really do all those things if he doesn’t want it for himself? It’s pointless. You’re in a codependent relationship. I would urge that you ask him to seek professional help at this point and leave it at that. Sometimes in life you have to be selfish with yourself and know when to walk away, know when enough is enough, know that if you keep yourself around old and bad habits you may slowly find your way back there again.

I really do hope your partner gets the help he deserves.

Oloni

Hey. I have a FWB which I have sex with every so often, we have busy schedules so it’s not as often as I’d like but hey. He’s good in bed and lays a mean pipe but he is kind of greedy and a little boring. He doesn’t do oral which he made clear from the start but the way he loves oral is time consuming lol and jaw sore. It’s usually him pounding till he cums but doesn’t think about what I like and I’m into more rough and more wild but how do I let him know I want to go wild wild and not just suck dick, come then wait for him too lol 10. May 2016

Hey girl, it seems like you need to have a conversation with him as he sounds like a selfish lover. If you’re getting naked, you can certainly communicate about getting naked. As for him not going down on you, hun some guys just don’t do it and even though I don’t understand them, he was certainly honest and said so from the jump. As for your sore jaw, please stop giving more than you can handle. This whole set up in general is supposed to be a friends with benefits and you don’t sound like you’re getting one. Sort it out!

Oloni

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