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Hi oloni , I have been in a LDR for a very long time now , and my BF is the absolute best, i haven’t met any one better than he is , but I am tired .we started dating early and I couldn’t experience the hoe stage , presently, I am older and should be thinking of serious things , but truth be told … I want to be a hoe … Lol … I want to know what someone else tastes like . I tried breaking up , but he doesn’t want to let me go, and I don’t know what to do
17. May 2016
Hey love, if you want to be a hoe or have a hoe phase then do so responsibly. You shouldn’t and can’t continue to be with someone you’re not fully invested in any more. I’d advise that if you’re positive you can’t commit to the relationship, you have an honest and open conversation and take action.
Oloni
Dear Oloni, Let me start off by commending the platform you’ve raised in order for our generation to be more open as to the sexual elements in our relationships etc. Now, often as ladies we talk a whole lot about guys cheating and so fourth but I want to know whether you personally or any other ladies out there have actually cheated on their other half. I’m trying to figure out why it’s so much more different when women cheat as opposed to when guys cheat.
11. May 2016
Hi Oloni. I have just recently starting dating a guy who I really really like. However he lives 5 hours away from me, I have never been in a long distance relationship, nevermind dating long-distance. Any advice on how to handle it?
11. May 2016
Hey love, LDR can be tough, but if you both have the same goal it mind you have nothing to worry about. Don’t treat your LDR like a TYPE or relationship, but just the position you’re both in now. Do you get my drift?
Stay in sync by continuously having something to talk about and discuss. Agree to watch the same films, perhaps together via FaceTime? Read the same books, download the same albums/mixtapes.
Set up times to have Skype or FaceTime dates. It’s 2016 and we have such a huge advantage of how to communicate with each other, so do it.
Also, remember to schedule dates to meet up next. Nothing beats, being able to hold, touch or caress your partner so make sure that’s something you both always talk about. (Meeting up next, not the caressing lol.. actually phone sex is good too. I’m going off board, hope this helped.lol )
Oloni
Hi Oloni, really need some advice about this one. So my flatmate and her boyfriend have been together 6 years, their relationship isn’t like most others and in no way romantic. Her boyfriend seems a bit more immature than your usual 23 year old and it’s becoming an issue for her as she is always complaining about him to me and comparing my relationship to hers which I keep telling her not to do as it won’t help. He is also the only guy she has been with and she is constantly asking me is it bad that she wonders what it is like to be with someone else sexually and emotionally. I don’t know how to answer the question but if she loved him and saw her future with him those thoughts wouldn’t cross her mind right?
11. May 2016
Heya hun, I think your flat mate probably wants to end things, but doesn’t want to be alone and perhaps just likes the idea of being with someone and not the actual person she’s with. Six years is a very long time, but in no way shape or form does it validate holding on to a crappy relationship.
When she comes to you next (if), ask her why she’s still with her current bf, if these are the thoughts she’s having?
Oloni
Hi Oloni. So I’ve been this guy for nearly three months now. He’s amazing and makes me really happy. We did see eachother for a few weeks before actually making it official. It was difficult considering his ex girlfriend was still trying to make things work. Anyways, just yesterday I found out from a trustworthy friend of mine that the ex girlfriend (who’s also friends with him) that my boyfriend slept with her before we got together. Now I don’t know if this was just before we officially got together or during the beginning of seeing eachother. There was no indication of having an open relationship. He told me he had feelings for me and I did the same. Now it’s way more than that. I just don’t know what to think, why would he sleep with his ex after he told me he had feelings for me? Like I want to leave it in the past now, since things are amazing now. I just need advice on whether or not I should tell him I know about this. Thanks for reading!
11. May 2016
Heya, I totally understand your conundrum. You’re having a ‘do i?’ or ‘don’t i?’ moment. I think if it’s on your mind you should talk to him about it to make sure it isn’t just hearsay. ‘Is it okay if we have a chat about something that’s been on my mind?’ – Talk to him! Things can still be amazing and healthy after having a conversation.
Oloni
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