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Hey oloni. I’m a 8 months r/ship with somebody I really love.his everything I could ask for but I don’t find sexual attractive I mean he doesn’t turn me .we have never actually passed the first base .idk it’s not just work for me I have really tired my best and his always all over me I used to like when my ex did that or somebody I’m having fun with .idk why his own is different ,I just get irritated please do you think it’s me or him or what should I do I really love this guy
1. June 2016
You need to be honest and tell him how you feel sexually. How did you even end up in a relationship with someone that doesn’t give your vagina butterflies? As I said, be honest and if you still can’t find yourself getting into it, this guy might not be for you.
Oloni
Hey Oloni. Do you think I made the right decision? I refused to meet my boyfriends parents as I felt I wasn’t ready yet. I also felt that time and location wasn’t right as they’re only coming to collect his stuff from uni. The summer is coming up and we won’t probably see each other until around July-August times. I don’t know I guess what I’m trying to ask when is the RIGHT time to meet the parents. We have been dating for about 5 months now and regularly argue. I’m scared that he’ll introduce me and our relationship will break off at some point.
1. June 2016
I understand your concerns, especially if you’ve been arguing for a bit. 5 months isn’t too bad, but everyone is different. You have couples who’ll wait a year to meet the rents (depending on where they live) and you have couples who’ll wait a month before the wedding day. It’s all about what works and happens naturally. I do think you should have a chat with him. It seems like he’s just trying to make you feel welcomed and perhaps even show you off, which isn’t really a bad thing. Talk to him and explain you’d rather work on the foundation of your relationship before meeting his parents.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, you’re really beautiful.
1. June 2016
Hi,oloni do you think there’s any legit reason why your boyfriend shouldn’t compliment you? I mean sometimes you just want to hear you look “beautiful” mine doesn’t and it’s annoying sometimes. What do you suggest ?
1. June 2016
Hey! There isn’t really a good reason. Have a chat with him.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, been with my guy 5 years and we have a kid, we live together and argue basically every other day, he also cheated on my whilst I was on holiday and my dad was sick in hospital he actually persuaded me to go even though I didn’t want to. I found out by randomly checking his phone whilst he was asleep and I saw all sorts of stuff, I forgave him it’s been a while now, but I recently checked his phone and history of him deleting messages on his Facebook and messages from girls, what should I do, I’m tired I have no social life anymore I’ve gained weight and feel so insecure about myself. Please help 🙁
1. June 2016
Hey love, if your boyfriend is constantly cheating on you or entertaining other women I’m a firm believer in leaving these situations. You clearly don’t trust him and I don’t blame you he’s not to be trusted. Never settle for an unhappy relationship. If you ever want to talk about this, book a call with me here: http://simplyoloni.com/product/private-scheduled-call-session/
Oloni
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