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Hi Oloni. As my 25th birthday slowly approaches, I’m realising that I’ve never really had a serious relationship, I’ve only dated people casually and I really want a life partner now. I’m reached that point in my life where I have so much love to give, but I just can’t find anyone. I’m slowly realising that I need to put effort into finding a partner but I’m not sure how. My confidence isn’t all the way there, and I’m super aware of myself when dating… Sorry if it seems I’m waffling and don’t necessarily have a question, but ultimately I want to know where/how/what I can do to find someone? Many thanks, Single and Tired
21. June 2016
Hey love to me it sounds like you’ve just been working on yourself and dating to find out what you’re looking for in someone serious. Book a coaching call with me here. I’d be happy to help share tips to lead you in the right direction.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, love your blog & what you’re about. I’m a sexual person that hasn’t ever been able to have sex because of the pain. I’ve never really wanted it till I started seeing my current boyfriend, huge guy a corresponding huge third leg lol. I love him, he treats me like a queen and we still get sexual so I’ve had several orgasms with him but I want the real thing. What do I do? We’ve tried using lube but it feels so painful, there’s alot of pressure too, even when he only puts in his fingers. Advice?
21. June 2016
Thank you dear. Okay right from what you’ve described it sounds like you could have Vaginismus. This is a consistent involuntary tightening of the muscles around the vagina whenever penetration is involved. I’m not 100% sure but I would suggest you check it out and also see a sexual health nurse or book an appointment with your GP. I hope you get all the help you need!
Oloni
Hey Oloni I have a question that I hope you read and answer. I have this problem. I’m not as sexual active as I wish to be because I’m not comfortable with my vagina area. I’m hairy ? I shave but of course it’s not waxy clean how I want it to be. I got it waxed once and I still bumped up. I guess I’m just sensitive down there. Guys these days seem Toño lay want girls with pretty vaginas lol. How do I approach a guy and tell them my problem without feeling embarrassed?
21. June 2016
Hey darling, you need to feel confident about your bits and bobs before you ever think about acceptance anywhere else. I’d suggest you stay away from the shaving methods that haven’t worked for you and do some research. Perhaps see a GP who can help you. I understand you want to be more sexually active, but first you must make sure whoever you’re having sex with makes you feel comfortable.
Oloni
Hi Oloni, I have been seeing a guy for a short time now and I didn’t know he had a gf. Well the signs and everything was there but I just didn’t want to ask because I didn’t want to destroy things with him. The sex is good and everything is good. He tells me how much he likes me and everything and he’s always saying he misses me. I really like this guy but ever since he told me he has a gf and since he met me he hasn’t been giving her much attention I don’t feel good about this whole thing again. I really like him and I can’t leave him please help me!.
15. June 2016
Come on, you’re better than this. Why share a guy when you can have one to yourself? It sounds like all he has to do is say the right stuff to have you come running. He’s committed to someone and even if you don’t leave him, he’ll keep playing about with you till he gets bored. What I’m curious to find out is what makes such a disloyal person so appealing to you? Isn’t it a huge turn off? Be wise and leave this situation as nothing positive will come from it.
Oloni
Hey Oloni! I’m really nervous about a date, it’s my first dinner date with someone I’m not already involved with. He’s much older than me (I’m 20). And I’m really nervous for some reason and I was wondering if you could give me some tips please!
15. June 2016
It sounds cliche, but just be yourself. Relax and ask questions you’d like to know the answers to which allows you to know him more. Not nosey questions lol but the small stuff, ‘where did you grow up?’, ‘What are you favourite tv shows/movies?’ etc. Have fun!
Oloni
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