Hey darling, I’m so sorry to hear about the remarks your mum is making. You should be able to feel comfortable enough to talk about contraception and not worry about her making such upsetting comments.

For starters 10 st. is NOT overweight, second I think you should get professional help from a sexual health nurse so they can personally advise and suggest what is right for you, not your mum. I’d also suggest you try and see a councillor, because the last thing I’d want for you is to slip back into that dark space.

Another important thing I think you need to do is speak to your mother about what she says to you, regardless of how her generation was, you need to voice out that you do not appreciate her put downs and how it makes you feel. You’re an adult and allowed to have sex when you choose to, the fact that you’re on contraception in the first place shows you take sexual well-being seriously.

Oloni

I don’t see why you need to share your sexual activities when you were apart. You were single. Nothing positive will come from it if you decide to share, however it’s your choice.

Oloni

Hey love! This is so tricky because you made a promise, however I can only imagine you may not feel 100% comfortable. It’s nice that she wants you involved, sweet in fact, but I think you should give her a call and let her know how you feel. She might know, she might not.. the important part is you having a chat with her so you can both come to an understanding.

Oloni

Hey love your ex seems really confused in what she wants. I can’t say whether or not you’ll get back together, but I know that space and time usually allows people to clear their mind and help them come to a decision on what they truly want, so do just that.

Oloni

I don’t even want to be rude, but I honestly feel like your husband is lost. If a friend of his can’t acknowledge and invite you to their wedding then he shouldn’t be going, because that is not his friend. That is someone who wants you both to fight at home. You’re not some little girlfriend, you’re his wife. Your invite is automatic. I’m mad you even let him call her to ask why, you should have both turned up. You sharing his last name isn’t for decoration and for someone who is getting married, she should know way better. If she can’t afford to feed or accommodate you both then he shouldn’t be invited, period. Do not allow this to cause an argument between the two of you. Whatever the outcome is, this is just one day, but I do think you need to sit and talk to him about this because I honestly do not think it’s right if he goes.

Oloni

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