Hey hun, have a chat with your girlfriend. Explain how you feel about it! If there’s enough trust between the both of you, there should be no reason as to why you think she might do something behind your back. Threesomes aren’t for everyone and can cause a major change within a relationship. It works for some who are in an open relationship and it doesn’t for others especially those who are in a monogamous one.

Oloni

It just sounds like your relationship is slightly damaged and even though you’ve decided to start over, it’s still affecting him. He probably does love you, but is scared you’ll take advantage of his feelings again, so is trying to come off cold. You have to have a talk with him and make it clear that if you both can’t make that effort to make the relationship work, without any pettiness you go your own way.

Oloni

Hey hun, If he’s been in a relationship since 2012 and broken up with his girl.. even though there is a baby on the way, I don’t think it’s wise you get involved with him, especially if it’s not going to be casual sex or just a fling. He has a family on the way.. and yeah he’s not with her now, but what about after the baby is born? I think you should let him focus on his family instead of creating an emotional attachment otherwise known as a relationship. I think you’ll lose out in the end.

Oloni

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Aww thanks. x

Hey darling, I’m so sorry to hear about the remarks your mum is making. You should be able to feel comfortable enough to talk about contraception and not worry about her making such upsetting comments.

For starters 10 st. is NOT overweight, second I think you should get professional help from a sexual health nurse so they can personally advise and suggest what is right for you, not your mum. I’d also suggest you try and see a councillor, because the last thing I’d want for you is to slip back into that dark space.

Another important thing I think you need to do is speak to your mother about what she says to you, regardless of how her generation was, you need to voice out that you do not appreciate her put downs and how it makes you feel. You’re an adult and allowed to have sex when you choose to, the fact that you’re on contraception in the first place shows you take sexual well-being seriously.

Oloni