Hey,

Thats weird. Maybe delete your whatsapp and go from there. It may not be anything to worry about, haven’t heard of that before, you could just have trust issues or be slightly insecure. But if it’s making you feel uncomfortable, archive/email yourself all your important messages, then delete. See what happens then. This is assuming you’ve already had a conversation with him explaining that it’s making you feel uncomfortable, if not then have that conversation first and see what he says.

Ebi

Hey,

Damn, under no circumstance should you bring a baby into this situation honestly. How do you break it off with her? You respectfully tell her how you feel, I would say you could even tell her that you have found someone else. Give her all the information she needs. All hope of getting back with you needs to be eliminated, so you can’t afford to sugarcoat anything because that is what keeps people hung up on their exes, discovering new information along the way can disrupt her healing so if you care to a degree, just keep it all the way real with her, be sensitive but do not sugarcoat the truth. Give her space and do not keep popping back in and out of her life. Leave her to go through the motions, if she reaches out, entertain it within reason but do not give her hope if you know you will not get back with her, stay consistent.

Ebi

Hey girlllll,

Firstly, good luck on your celibacy journey :), secondly whenever you feel like it, don’t panic, just let it flow. It really depends on the guy and what is brought up in conversation, but if you want to save yourself time and invested feelings, maybe let them know as soon as…you can mention it in passing, maybe ask “what do you think of celibacy and waiting until marriage?” and see where it goes from there, use that as a way to make it clear where you stand. Also let me be real with you, some guys will hear that and think you’re “just saying that” and may not take you seriously, especially if they have encountered girls who claimed to be celibate but weren’t really about that life, so not everyone who says they don’t mind has the best intentions, so be wary and put the necessary boundaries in place from early to avoid breaking your commitment to celibacy. Dating wise though I would suggest you go for guys that have made it clear that they’re down for celibacy/just share the same beliefs as you in general, maybe if you follow them online or meet them in certain settings where celibacy is common amongst those within those communities you will feel less anxious about bringing it up and it will be assumed that you’re kinda on the same page from the jump (doesn’t mean it’s always the case though so again be wary). Hope this helped.

Ebi

Hey lovely,

It’s simple. No you are not. You may not be in love with them, but you care in some capacity. What capacity? Only you will know the answer to that.

Ebi

Hey,

You can do what you like. Go about your life or talk to her. I personally don’t think she will stop harassing you until she gets the information she needs, having said that if you feel uncomfortable talking to her, you do not have to talk to her. I would go the easier route, have a short and direct conversation with her detailing the main occurrences, answer any of her questions, then ask her to respectfully leave you alone as you don’t want any part of their marriage problems as you were not aware of that commitment until afterwards and walked away when you found out.

Ebi