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me and my ex broke up due to pressure from parents from what was going on in our relationship it’s been half a year now but I still miss her dearly and want to know if I should get in contact 26. April 2016

Hey,

Go ahead, just don’t rush back into it and if you start afresh maybe change the dynamics of who has a say on anything that goes on in your relationship. {if your relationship was toxic however and your parents are right, please leave it in the past and seek your healing)

Ebi

Hi Oloni, so i’ve been talking to this guy at my uni for 3 months we both like each other, he said hes’s fallen for me also… we’ve kissed twice , he sleeps round mine sometimes, but we havent had sex, we just spoon and he’ll hold me in the night…we spend a lot of time together…i just found out he has a gf and has been with her for nearly 2 year what shall i do?. 26. April 2016

Hey lovely,

If that is indeed true and you have evidence proving he has a girlfriend, what you do is leave him and go about your life. Don’t be THAT girl. You can lose so much being that girl. Also never allow anyone to treat you like you’re second best.

Hope this helped.

Ebi

Hey Oloni! Congrats on all of your recent success, I’m a fan. So I recently broke up with my ex gf of 2 years due to us not seeing eye to eye. We would argue allot, we weren’t close, we didn’t get on and we weren’t intimate at all. We decided that we would work on being friends which is cool. I met someone else a month later and went on a date with this new girl to a museum. I posted up a snapchat of the museum and my ex told me I was fake and 2 faced and she said I clearly never cared about her amongst other things. Am I really wrong for going on a date a month after being single? 21. April 2016

Logically, not you’re not wrong. You can do as you please from the moment you end things.. however, how would you feel if it was the other way round? It really does depend on how the relationship ended, if you were all in love and realised that it just wasn’t going to work, then to many it would be heart-breaking to see you with another woman after a month. If it was a relationship that was just ‘meh’ and ended, then it’d be whatever. I can understand why she feels that way, but in all honesty, how she feels is no longer any of your business, so she needs to keep that to herself. I hope I’m making sense? I’d suggest that you literally remove each other on social media. You’re not together, but you don’t need an ex putting a time frame on when you can date again.

Oloni

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Should a person be bothered that their partner still talks to his ex? I mean doesn’t it make you kind of insecure and not trusting your partner? Plus he’s with you and not her cause he loves you right? So should u really be worried?? 21. April 2016

It doesn’t make you insecure or mean you don’t trust your partner. Hun the word you’re looking for is ‘uncomfortable’- People try to cover up the emotion of some women by branding them as insecure. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, especially it the communication between the two is frequent.

Oloni

Hi Oloni, My girlfriend and I have have been together for less than 6 months now, things picked really quick and we decided to put a title on it. Everything has been good but lately we argue quite a lot, although they are never about big deals and we sort it out the next minutes, about two weeks ago she asked me if we should go on a break for a bit which I declined and gave her reasons why we shouldn’t because I don’t believe in breaks, she agreed and we’ve decided to continue, I really love the girl and I see future with her. Please Advice on what I can do in other to help the relationship and the arguments. 21. April 2016

I’ve learnt that arguments in relationships are VERY healthy. It’d be a tad creepy if you NEVER had one. However, not everything needs to turn into a tongue war. You both need to learn to find new ways to communicate with each other. Listen a lot more and try to study your partners behaviour. If you know what will make them mad, avoid it. The whole point of a relationship is to grow together (grow happy), a part of that means finding different ways to understand each other.

Oloni

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