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Hey Oloni ,How do I tell this careless boy I’m seeing he gave me an std. I was made aware he was having sexual contact with other females so I went to get tested and found out he gave me chlamydia. I’m pissed but I’m also forgiving. I don’t know how to approach the talk. I care for him he put me in this situation but I blame myself for being as careless as him by trusting having unprotected sex with someone who’s not my bf . Til now we’re close and do talk almost everyday i care for him hence why I want him to get treated too. How do I face to face tell him about this ?
21. April 2016
Hey hun, I’m so sorry to hear about what you went through, but I’m glad that you got yourself checked after what you had heard. Please always use condoms in the future regardless of if that person your partner or not. Protection is way better than cure and it’s always best to practice safe sex. You have no reason to feel a way about telling him that you caught an STD off him, it didn’t come out of thin air. You got it because you were sexually active with him, remember that. If you’re both grown enough to lie naked together, then you should be grown enough to discuss this.. you’ve already said you’re quite close so inform him asap. Now him getting checked up is his responsibility, not yours. The most you can do is TELL him. Do not sleep with him, till you have proof that he’s got the clear too girl.
Oloni
Hi oloni and ebi 🙂 i’m 18 years old and my bf is 22 years old we have been going out for few months, he is such a nice guy to me and treats me with so much respect but there is one thing that is bugging me about him and that is his lifestyle he claims that he isn’t a drug dealer but in my eyes i see him as one, he gets people to sell his drugs for him etc and he always has large amount of cash and it is making me really uncomfortable
21. April 2016
How about you talk to him about it. I will say however that he sounds like a very dodgy lad and you don’t need to be around that, if he’s selling drugs you know what you need to do.
Oloni
Do people ever get back to the way things were after one partner cheats?like is there any relationship that survived after a partner cheated
21. April 2016
Of course. Many have survived it, but many have also tried to force themselves to survive through it. It’s quite difficult but it’s certainly possible. It’ll take time, patience, trust and forgiveness.
Oloni
hey oloni , i got into a little misunderstanding with my boyfriend after stating how i felt , we are in a long distance relationship , so lack of show of emotions while arguing over the phone doesn’t help. Anyway during the argument he was quick to say ‘now i really miss her’ probably referring to his ex , i don’t know and neither do i want to find her but i felt the statement was rude and unnecessary although at that moment i let it slide and apologised for offending him but since that i’ve been thinking about that statement. I don’t doubt his love for me and think he might has said that out of anger but i’ve decided to confront him about it and if he feels he wasn’t wrong to make that statement i have decided to break up with him because i felt like i had been wasting my time for him to make such a comment during a small misunderstanding . i love him and knows he loves me too but i don’t know if i’m right or wrong and if this is the right decision . i’m just 18 i can’t afford to let someone make me feel less of myself. however i know that he respects me and knows my value . but am i making the right decision or not ?
13. April 2016
Hey,
If indeed he was talking about his ex and expresses no remorse for saying such a thing, or tells you he stands by his feelings towards his ex, then I do not think you’re wrong. At the end of the day, that’s unacceptable and rude and if you can’t look past it, do what you’ve got to do girl.
Ebi
As a 20 year old woman is it okay for me to be dating a guy on a serious level but have a guy on the side for sex/oral sex until I become official with the guy I’m dating seriously?
13. April 2016
Hey,
At any moment this can blow up in your face because if the guy you’re dating seriously is not okay with that or catches wind of your movements you can easily not get into that serious relationship you’re hoping for . So set some boundaries with the guy you’re dating, after you do so, you’ll be able to answer that question.
Ebi
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