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This boy I was casually seeing told me after we had sex that he had sex with another girl so immediately I stopped speaking to him. However I started to speaking to another boy briefly after this and I decided to speak more seriously with him when me and my ex ting ended. We met up and just hit off, we had a good connection and everything, we eventually beat before we even made it official, I’ve never been in a relationship with anyone so when he told me after that he has feelings for me I told him the same thing back, and now I’ve realised that I may still have feelings for my ex I don’t know what to do. Recently we’ve been decent and being speaking to the previous one more, he wants to see me but I’m not sure if I should do that whilst speaking to this new one. Help!!!! 26. April 2016

Hey,

Make your mind up and be honest with your boyfriend. Do not drag him down with your indecision. Do not be selfish and keep him there whilst you talk to the old guy. Be very honest, do not sugarcoat it and do it now, so that he doesn’t get too invested in you, then go your separate ways. But for as long as you’re in a monogamous relationship you owe it to your partner to be respectful and transparent.

Ebi

me and my ex broke up due to pressure from parents from what was going on in our relationship it’s been half a year now but I still miss her dearly and want to know if I should get in contact 26. April 2016

Hey,

Go ahead, just don’t rush back into it and if you start afresh maybe change the dynamics of who has a say on anything that goes on in your relationship. {if your relationship was toxic however and your parents are right, please leave it in the past and seek your healing)

Ebi

Hi Oloni, so i’ve been talking to this guy at my uni for 3 months we both like each other, he said hes’s fallen for me also… we’ve kissed twice , he sleeps round mine sometimes, but we havent had sex, we just spoon and he’ll hold me in the night…we spend a lot of time together…i just found out he has a gf and has been with her for nearly 2 year what shall i do?. 26. April 2016

Hey lovely,

If that is indeed true and you have evidence proving he has a girlfriend, what you do is leave him and go about your life. Don’t be THAT girl. You can lose so much being that girl. Also never allow anyone to treat you like you’re second best.

Hope this helped.

Ebi

Hey Oloni! Congrats on all of your recent success, I’m a fan. So I recently broke up with my ex gf of 2 years due to us not seeing eye to eye. We would argue allot, we weren’t close, we didn’t get on and we weren’t intimate at all. We decided that we would work on being friends which is cool. I met someone else a month later and went on a date with this new girl to a museum. I posted up a snapchat of the museum and my ex told me I was fake and 2 faced and she said I clearly never cared about her amongst other things. Am I really wrong for going on a date a month after being single? 21. April 2016

Logically, not you’re not wrong. You can do as you please from the moment you end things.. however, how would you feel if it was the other way round? It really does depend on how the relationship ended, if you were all in love and realised that it just wasn’t going to work, then to many it would be heart-breaking to see you with another woman after a month. If it was a relationship that was just ‘meh’ and ended, then it’d be whatever. I can understand why she feels that way, but in all honesty, how she feels is no longer any of your business, so she needs to keep that to herself. I hope I’m making sense? I’d suggest that you literally remove each other on social media. You’re not together, but you don’t need an ex putting a time frame on when you can date again.

Oloni

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Should a person be bothered that their partner still talks to his ex? I mean doesn’t it make you kind of insecure and not trusting your partner? Plus he’s with you and not her cause he loves you right? So should u really be worried?? 21. April 2016

It doesn’t make you insecure or mean you don’t trust your partner. Hun the word you’re looking for is ‘uncomfortable’- People try to cover up the emotion of some women by branding them as insecure. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, especially it the communication between the two is frequent.

Oloni

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