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Hey Oloni, what does it mean when your partner gets turned on by the thought of you with several other people? My man keeps talking about how he would to watch me in bed with other men and women. But i can understand the woman part since I’m bisexual but i don’t get how he can comfortable with such. Also he loves the idea of showing me off completely naked to people. is this okay? 10. May 2016

Hey dear, these all sound like fantasies of his which is pretty normal for many. Speak to him about it and get more details as to what aspect turns him on from this all. Remember you don’t have to do any of these things if you’re not comfortable with it.

Oloni

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I have been with my partner for nearly 6 years . It’s got to the point where I have out grown him but I still love him so much . Everyone around me is telling me I can do better. Don’t get me wrong he is a lovely person , my friends and family adore him but I’m at the point right now where I need more . What should I do ? From a 22year old hopelessly in love 10. May 2016

Hey dear, going by what you feel alone, it might be time to have that conversation with him. But first ask yourself how long you’ve felt like this for? What exactly you need ‘more’ of, so that can help identify what it is you’re searching for at this point of your life. 6 years is a very long time, so I have no doubt your love for him is strong, but is love ever enough when it comes to relationships?

Oloni

Hey Oloni.. Me and my ex decided to see how things go between us since we both still have love for eachother but tbh since I agreed with it, I feel like we’re just friends. He doesn’t really make an effort even though he was the one who really wanted to start over again. On top of that, he recently download the periscope app and I checked the followers to see the same girl he had sex with during our time apart.. He had the cheek to follow me after her. Like where’s the respek? And why would he follow her knowing I’m going to see it? Am I overreacting or? 10. May 2016

Yes he does need to put some immediate respeck on it. You have to talk to him about it, and start off with the foundation of your relationship … ‘Baby I don’t think an effort is being made in the way I hoped it would have, how can resolve things?’ – Then move on to the girl he followed and allow him to know you’re uncomfortable with it. I’m sure he’ll be more than happy to unfollow.

Oloni

My bf says he don’t trust me and that all he has is my ‘word’ that i won’t cheat on him (even though I had sex with someone else whilst we were NOT together). Whats the best way to SHOW that your sorry and to rebuild his trust issues with me? 10. May 2016

Hey love, if you haven’t actually cheated I think it’s just his ego that’s slightly bruised because you had sex between the time you weren’t together. What are you apologising for? Having sex whilst single? There isn’t much you can do though, if he can’t trust you, is there any point in continuing the relationship?

Oloni

Hey, so my boyfriend and I are quite new in this relationship but I was seeing him for awhile. He was very honest about the number of people he has slept with which is 25+. At the time I was aware it was a lot but wasn’t affected by it. I think it had to do with the fact that I was a virgin. I’ve lost him it to him and don’t regret it but I know find myself comparing my self to his partners. It’s affecting my relationship with him 10. May 2016

Hey girl. It sounds like you’re quite insecure and it’s perfectly fine, you can’t help how you feel and I completely understand it. I feel like this is a conversation you should have with your partner however. Communicate this to him so he’s aware of your thoughts and feelings. Don’t leave him in the dark or else that will only harm things more.

Good luck, and remember to try and not compare you boyfriends past to his present. One of the aims of your relationship is to try and create memories and more experiences together..so do that, he’s all yours!

Oloni

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