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My boyfriend introduced me to his family after 6 months of dating when we were 18. We’re now 20-21 and he constantly insists on meeting my family. My family aren’t as open as his. They’re old school and would disapprove of a serious relationship until I’m ready for marriage. Should I be truthful with them and just introduce him? Or should I try to make him understand their views and hold off the introduction until it’s time for marriage? I really hate drama in my life.
6. September 2015
I think you should let your family know that you’re with someone who you’re quite serious about, but also let him know the morals and values your parents have. An intro before marriage is a lot better, your family should be able to know who’s last name you could be one day sharing.
Hey Oloni. I recently went on holiday to my motherland and I met this cool guy. We had sex twice. I’m back in the country and he’s still over there but will be back soon as he goes uni in the UK. I haven’t known him for that long clearly but I really like him. He’s a really cool guy, claims me. Still reaches out all the time however every female seems to have something bad to say about him. I’ve never heard anything good about him which worries me a lot. So I’m not sure if I should continue talking to him even though he hasn’t really given me a reason not to?
6. September 2015
Rumours can be rumours, give it a chance just don’t set your heart on him. I know men with bad reputations but treated their wives like Beyonce.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for three years going on four. We have recently graduated together and he has started a new job. Ever since he has started the job he has been really stressed and is saying that he is depressed, which has has an impact on our relationship. He has become boring and does not want to do anything at all , even going out for a meal has become a problem. Recently he has also been hinting doubts about our relationship but I feel like he is only saying this as he is very stressed at the moment. I’m in a hard situation as I love him and I do not want to let him go, but at the same time if I give him space I don’t want to look like I am not there for him? What do I do .
6. September 2015
You have to speak to him about it and have a proper conversation. If you feel like he’s hinting at things, it needs to be addressed. You can’t be there for someone who doesn’t want you to be there. You can’t give him a hand if he’s hinted that he rather not have it. I understand you don’t want the relationship to end, I do. Three years is a long time, but if he’s not making the same effort, you have to think about your options carefully before you give another three more.
Hi Oloni, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He recently dropped out of college in January, he’s almost turning 19 and he has no job and basically no qualification, and it doesn’t seem like he is actually bothered about this. I’ve tried everything even enrolling him into college myself and applying for jobs for him, but he neverturns up to any interviews. What should I do?
6. September 2015
Are you his mum? Stop doing all of this right now. If he’s not taking action for his own life. Why are you?
Hi Oloni, me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now, but recently his sex drive has completely vanished. I know he’s coming off anti depressants which could impact him, but we both used to have very high sex drives and now I’m lucky if we have sex once a month. I’m trying to be supportive but I feel so rejected and upset, every time I try I just get pushed away. Sex is a big deal for me, as I need intimacy, I just don’t know what to do anymore, I’m tired of rolling over in bed every night silently crying myself to sleep because he’s just pushed me off and gone to bed. I’ve never felt so rejected hurt and disconnected, what do I do?
6. September 2015
He’s clearly going through some things and you either need to talk to him about it, or ask yourself if you can stay in the relationship. It must be difficult for him, so I would suggest my first option which is talking to him about it. Try to be even more supportive, but communicate what you’ve been feeling emotionally. I’m almost positive he’s aware, but when you sit down and discuss things and voice it out loud it can do so much. Ask him to open up to you, so you get a sense of where his head and emotions are. I hope things work out.
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