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hey, I’ve recently discovered an odour from my v, I remember you speaking on the tl about it before, I’m not sure what to do becos I’m quite embarrassed to tell anyone or not sure if I should go to my gp. do I get a specific soap for it? thanks
31. August 2015
You don’t use soap on that area of your body EVER. Just water, only water. Go to a clinic and get a check up also.
My boyfriend’s mum forbids him to see me. We’ve been together for 3 years. The first year she didn’t take us seriously which is why she’s act all fake nice. Since then I haven’t really been to his house in 2 years. He’s 24 years old and she has him on lockdown. We were meant to go on holiday next month and she’s told him no. I’m not sure what to do, I feel like when we get more serious like moving in together, marriage etc.. She’s going to make it so difficult for us. He says he fights for us but I can’t trust that he does because then he’d really understand how this is impacting us. We can’t even have a phone conversation without his mum interrupting. I’m not sure what to do. I feel like this is the start of something really horrible and I don’t want to be caught up in such family dynamics before we’ve even really settled down yet. I literally feel like I’m starting in Monster-In-Law 2. Help!
31. August 2015
Sorry to hear about this annoying situation. What you have to do is have a sit down with him. (Yes, again) and have a conversation about it. You’re someone else’s daughter too so you shouldn’t be treated like this. He has to talk to his mother and let her know that she can’t interfere in a 24 y/o’s relationship. Your other move is to decide whether or not you can stick this out, because she’s not going to wake up tomorrow and decide to like you. Think about your options wisely and just remember to always remain respectful, the last thing you want is for her to hold onto something which makes you look bad and an excuse to carrying on mistreating you.
Hey Oloni, I have been single for nearly 2 years now. I’m really busy with work and don’t have many friends and I don’t like raving. I’ve tried dating sites but just get guys who are only interested in sex. I want an opportunity to meet more single serious guys. My 2 friends both have boyfriends and it gets lonely but I don’t want to rush and settle with any prick. I’m no Gabrielle Union but I’m not an ugly girl. I feel like all the good guys are gone or don’t like me. Any suggestions on how to meet guys except through going raving or dating sites?
31. August 2015
Raving is not a place to meet guys! However I answer this question almost every other day. Grab my EBook and have a read. It covers 100 most asked questions. It’s available here :https://simplyoloni.com/product/100-questions/
Hi Oloni, I have been with current partner for a year now and today was the second time I discovered he’s been talking to other girls to come and see him at home with the intention of obviously participating in intercourse, I know this has never been fulfilled but I feel that this is bad enough. I don’t know how I should feel or even act or react to this, personally I feel that this is bad karma because of what I did in my past relationship and how I treated my ex. However, this guy is the first guy I’ve ever felt anything for and feel that I love him but I really have no idea of what I should do I am the type of person to just walk away from these sort of situations and never look back with no guilt or feelings but I feel if I walk from him I will regret it and I will not bein a good place emotionally for a very long time
31. August 2015
A year is enough time to decide if the relationship is worth giving another shot. My honest opinion? No. He’s untrustworthy and things will get worse if you stick around. Yes you’re emotionally invested, but is it worth the heartache?
How do you stay motivated?
31. August 2015
I surround myself with different forms of motivation.
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