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Hey Oloni, I really admire what you do, thanks. I was sexually abused by my biological father when I was a kid. He’s obvs not in the picture anymore. But I realised that all my boyfriends have looked exactly like him and I called them ‘daddy’ and I have some kind of daughter-like dependency with my current )Am I messed up?
11. September 2015
Hey love, I’m sorry to hear what happened, but I do believe you need to seek professional help and see a therapist.
I’ve was talking to this guy for 5 years and we’ve now been seeing each other for another two years. Shortly before we started seeing each other he had a child from a one night stand, which I was fine with as we weren’t seeing each other. He has recently now had another child with the same woman. I’m feeling like he now has a family and there’s no need for me to be in the picture. Would I be doing the right thing to leave? Because between work and his first child we barely spend time together.
11. September 2015
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, he has a daughter. I feel like it’s time to meet her but he’s very secretive about her, I’m not sure why and I don’t know what to do
6. September 2015
You have to talk to him about it. Some people are very protective and may not want to introduce their child till perhaps marriage, but four years even has me raising my brow.
My boyfriend is constantly putting me down and making me feel like shit. I don’t even think he does it on purpose but it’s almost like he is trying to change me and mold me into what he likes. I told him and he apologised but he still does it sometimes
6. September 2015
It’s either you talk about it and give him examples of when he does it, or you leave
Hey I’ve been with my bf for nearly 2yrs now.I have a son from a previous relationship. The problem is my baby’s father still has feelings towards me & isn’t afraid to show it(mainly through texts) I have told him in so many ways I am not interested & to move on(he actually has a gf too)He is disrespecting my relationship & it has got to the point where my current partner is understandably feelin uneasy & I feel is contemplating if he should end the relationship with me. I don’t want to lose this man I love him dearly . I want my bd to get the hint and I don’t know what else to do. I have been so blunt I don’t even give him eye contact when he drops off my son. Help
6. September 2015
He will get tired of his own behaviour (the father of your child) eventually. When you don’t entertain someone they soon too fall bored of their own games and tricks. Carry on doing what you’re doing, by ignoring him and giving him blunt responses when he becomes inappropriate. As for they man you’re with now, ask him to be patient about the situation, his only concern should be with you and how you handle the problem.
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