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27. September 2015
Hi, I was dating a guy and we ended it because he was still talking to his ex. Months later, he’s now completely separated from her. We’ve begun talking again and it’s clear that we’re still very attracted to each other, but I don’t want to sleep with him until we take things to the next level (relationship). How can I encourage him to take this/me seriously? Thanks.
20. September 2015
Spend more time with him, get to know each other. Make sure he’s someone you want to be in a relationship with and talk about where you’d like things to head. Show that you’re serious about things by simply showing a serious interest and making some time for him. The thing with ‘encouraging’ him to take you seriously seems like you’re asking how to push it towards that direction, but if you’re made for each other and compatible no encouraging will have to take place.
Okay so I get along with this guy-pure friendship and all- yet he never hollers. If I holler, he’s all cool and says stuff like ‘It’s good to hear from you’ yet why cant he initiate convo?Please give your honest opinion
20. September 2015
The interest you may have in him, may not be mutual. He probably sees you as a just a friend.
Hello Oloni, ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I went to get my contraception stopped about two weeks ago because we have decided to start a family and part of the procedure is to have an sti testing done, i had one done in april which was clear and so did he. However when i got my result last week it was detected that i had chlamydia which is impossible because hes my only sexual partner. I told him about the result and a part of me feels like he thinks ive been unfaithful & thats how i caught it(we are awaiting his test result) what do i do? i know im innocent but theres no other explanation of how i got it and i don’t want him thinking i’ve been unfaithful
20. September 2015
Something like chlamydia can be passed through intercourse after having sex only once. It doesn’t come from no where and chances are he has it too. You have to wait for his results to come back and make sure he takes the meds. Have a proper discussion about it. Just because you found out you had it first doesn’t mean he isn’t guilty of slipping up.
Hi oloni I was cheated on in my last two relationships and all my friends have been cheated on my guy friends tell me all about their cheating stories & I’ve got to a point where I actually think all men cheat which scares me cause I’m only 22 and I feel like I won’t be able to find someone who is loyal in this generation. I really don’t want this mentality but I find it so hard to think otherwise especially due to the fact that ever since I was cheated on I find it so hard to trust men I think they all cheat and it upsets me that I have become this way it’s almost like I hate men
20. September 2015
You’re 22. An age where a lot of men in your age group aren’t serious. This isn’t an excuse for your experience, but it’s the reality. It seems like you need to take some time out of dating so you don’t carry on having this mentality that all men are the same, because that’s what it’s starting to seem like. Yes, you’ve been hurt, but you’re way too young to give up hope. Heal, learn and repeat to help you move past all of this.
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