Unless you’re old enough to have a kid of your own, I don’t always think it’s the greatest idea. But the decision is yours if he’s a good person and treats you right, then go for it.

You shouldn’t ignore red flags, if you know he’s a flirt you must understand that it is a part of his nature to be inappropriate with other women. The thing with this scenario is when he does it, he’s actively telling women he does not respect his relationship or you. So why would they? If you believe it’s something you can forgive and work on from then do so, but do not let him believe he’s completely off the hook. Making it up to you isn’t necessary having respect for you is.

You need to analyse the relationship properly. Is that how things really were, or is that how you felt? Either way, I’ll tell you what I tell a lot of women. You must use this as an experience that will help make you stronger, keep yourself busy and work on you. The sadness you’re feeling will pass but you have to give it time.

You need to leave both men alone, especially the one who you described as obsessive. He’s treating you as if he owns you, he choked you and was sexually indecent towards you. Are you after a happy relationship or are you looking for a guy who can fill an empty void?

Suggesting a date isn’t a bad idea use it to figure out if things are going somewhere. Or if you’re both equally as interested into each other. Try a cheap date at restaurant or meet up and get a drink together. Also ask about his thoughts on how you both communicate.