I am currently in a relationship with a guy and have been for the past six months. We have previously discussed our sexual tastes and his differ quite a lot from my own. I am interested in exploring our bodies, learning one another’s turn ons & turn offs and introducing extras in the bedroom like toys and props etc.. Whereas he doesn’t feel it’s necessary and doesn’t understand why I feel that he should reciprocate my willingness to try new things such as ‘giving head’. I feel like our views on exploring our sexuality within our relationship differ quite a bit and am not sure how to overcome or deal with such boundaries?
11. October 2015
A lot of people find it hard to open up to different ideas in the bedroom. Some need a little push through tiny steps, such as introducing flavoured lube for example. You’re not asking to use a door jam, but he has to be open to it even if it’s a little bit. Try discussing why you enjoy experimenting in the bedroom and why it’s important you explore your sexuality. You can’t force him to reciprocate oral pleasure, but one thing I’m sure you don’t want to do is have sex when you’re not enjoying it.
I love my boyfriend and I’ve been with him for 3 years. The sex is good but since using my Rabbit I no longer want to have sex with him as the Rabbit seems damp near perfect. He has noticed the distance but doesn’t know about the Rabbit, what should I do. I love him and don’t want to hurt him but I’ve never felt as alive before.
11. October 2015
Try using your rabbit during the sex and as a part of foreplay.
Hi Oloni, my ex and I ended things almost 3 years ago now. Since then, we’ve still been flirting with eachother and we still have this connection that we both ignore. After we ended things, he got into a relationship with this girl that clearly did not like me but pretended to have no problem with. During his relationship with her, we would still talk but not as much. However there was still this strong connection. Fast forward to now, we still hang out and talk to eachother but we have never resolved our issues or talked about our feelings. I still love him but I don’t know how to tell him. What should I do?
11. October 2015
It’s been three years and you’re finding it hard to speak about your feelings to someone you were once with?What’s stopping you? And how strong are these feelings if t’s held you back for so long? I understand he was once on a relationship with someone else, but now he isn’t. Speak up, or be prepared to miss out again
Hi Oloni, I have this guy I really like but he seems to show no interest in me but there’s another guy I talk to and he shows alot of interest in me even though I have no intentions of being with him. Should I say goodbye to the guy who ignores me or pay attention to the one who likes me?
11. October 2015
Neither find someone where a mutual interest is involved.
My boyfriend has decided to focus on his education. He really wants to succeed so he has said that communication and hanging out between us will be limited as he wants to concentrate. I feel neglected and alone as he is not giving me the attention that I would like. He is not even trying to set apart time to see me in between his breaks. So I’m wondering Is it worth it to stick with him or to dump him?
11. October 2015
If he isn’t making any time for you, you have to tell him this as it’s clearly making you feel unwanted. It’s great he’s trying to be more focused on his education, but if he’s unable balance having you in his life the way you’d like to then you have to think about whether or not the relationship should carry on.
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